the girl

Double Snow

Tuesday we had a snow day. The Boy was so thrilled at the prospect of playing in the snow that it really didn’t matter that there was no snow to speak of. All Monday evening he was talking about getting to play in the snow, getting to make a snow man, throw snowballs, shovel snow with his backhoe.

I knew that there was little chance of snowball fights, snowmen, or much else. But I’d also known that a bigger storm was coming later in the week. A real storm. So I reassured the Boy that we would have plenty of snow to play in come Thursday.

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The Boy didn’t mind the small amount of snow, though. Snow is snow, and as long as it was something he could shove around with his toys, he was thrilled.

We were all excited about Wednesday’s storm, though. They kept shifting the start time, further and further back, from late afternoon to early evening, but the intensity only grew. Three to five inches eventually became a possibility up to ten inches — a real snow storm.

Wednesday during class when students asked when certain assignments were due, I kept saying things like, “If this storm is anything like they’re saying it will be, we won’t be coming back until Monday, so we’ll make it due then.”

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Finally the snow began, and it looked so promising, falling so thick and hard that it was possible even to capture it in a picture. I thought of the few great snow storms of my youth in southwest Virginia, where it rarely snowed but every few years would let loose a great storm that piled drifts three or more feet deep. Snow so deep that one had to pack it down before sledding was even a remote possibility. Snow that turned everything into a white blanket. Of course there’s no comparing that to the seven winters I spent in southern Poland, the winters that were the norm of K’s youth, where there was so much snow that even I got sick of it.

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The governor had already declared a state of emergency, and all the reporters, after literally reporting on half an inch of snow Tuesday with giddy delight, were all probably flushed with anticipation. The school district canceled school before we’d even completed Wednesday’s schedule, and friends posted pictures on social media of virtually empty bread aisles in local supermarkets.

But when we woke up this morning, expectant, we found a repeat of Tuesday, a thin layer of slush that seemed destined to melt shortly after lunch.

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Local news web sites quickly offered stories explaining what happened. “The moisture was there,” meteorologists explained, “but the temperature just popped up two degrees and that changed everything.” Our official total, as opposed to five or more inches, was 0.8 inches. Further north there were totals more like what we were promised, but nothing really that impressive. Headlines developed through the day: “National Weather Service stands by Upstate snow forecast.” It seemed everyone was disappointed on one level or another.

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Still, we had enough slush on the ground to roll a small snowman, enough slush to get in boots and make the Girl complain, enough slush to get the Boy cold in a few minutes and whining to go inside.

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But not enough snow even to get all the ground damp.

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We in the South take what we can get when it comes to snow, though. Supposedly areas of Alabama and Mississippi got close to ten inches, so perhaps by the time it got here — well, who knows. We had slush, we built a slushman, and headed in late morning knowing perfectly well that we would be going to school tomorrow.

Commonality

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It’s been chilly in the house due to some heating problems — zoning system again. The kids have been sleeping together as a result.

First Confession

Congratulations to our Girl, the big girl, and for at least fifteen minutes this evening after her first confession in preparation for her first communion, a saint.

Sunday Afternoon

Sunday afternoons have some standard events, and right in the center of those events is afternoon exploring. Today, though, we threw a wheelbarrow into the mix, and spent a bit of time collecting wood.

The wood? For the first bonfire of the year.

Writing

The Girl is to write a research-based biographical report about Amelia Earhart. As with all homework, I’m willing (and sometimes insistent) to help her, at least to check her work. But this is a big assignment. We’ve needed to pace ourselves, so last week, we set up a schedule on Google Calendar to make sure L completed everything in a timely fashion and didn’t simply let everything pile up at the end.

She completed the book, she finished the planning, and today, it was time to begin the report.

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It’s a fine line, though, between helping and doing for the Girl. As a writing teacher, I have experience in guiding students to see the problems with their writing and helping them improve it. But in the back of my mind, I say to myself, “This needs to look like a second-grader wrote it.” Should I teach her to transition between ideas within a paragraph? Should I show her how to turn her one-sentence opening, her thesis, into a full paragraph?

I’ve decided simply to guide her as minimally as possible, then ask her to read the finished product. If she feels it’s clumsy, if she comments on the short introductory paragraph, we’ll get to work fixing it.

Text

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Experiment

When I was a kid, I wanted to be an inventor. Who doesn’t, I guess. I mixed this and that, sometimes with permission, sometimes surreptitiously. At one point, I even determined that I could certainly make my own alcohol, so set some potato peelings to ferment, and not knowing really about the distillation process, created what could only be called later a foul mess.

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Today, L was less ambitious. She wanted, appropriately enough for her interests and gifts, to create paint. She mixed various food colorings together, taking careful notes about proportions.

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In the end, they all wound up in the sink, I believe. She couldn’t figure out a way to thicken the mixture into a paint that didn’t involve some idea like mixing yogurt into it. We’re more than happy to let her play, let her experiment, let her explore, but everything has a certain limit.

Saturday Ritual

Humans love rituals, and we’re no exception. You could just about tell the time of day on an average Saturday by what we’re doing. The first activity naturally is one that can’t be photographed: sleeping past six in the morning. Since K has become a stay-at-home mother, we don’t have as frantic weekday mornings as we used to, but they’re still weekday mornings, with all the unavoidable stress included, just lessened. Lunches to make, hair to brush, mouths to feed. But Saturday mornings, the only alarm clock is the Boy, which can sometimes sleep mercifully until almost eight sometimes.

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Babcia always follows sleep. Put the coffee on, get the kids eating, then call Babcia on Skype. In the past, that involved the big computer. Then the laptop. Now we even sometimes use the little seven-inch Nexus, which means E can eat breakfast and show Babcia his new toys simultaneously. Yet within that little slice of Saturday we have mini-rituals, like standing with E at the refrigerator as he decides which yogurt he wants for breakfast.

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Then there’s play. The Boy, still thrilled with his new toys, plays with Mater and Lightning McQueen on a daily basis, and Saturdays are no different. Even in his play, though, his polite personality shines: his toys always ask “please” of each other and respond with “thank you” and “you’re welcome.” The Boy hasn’t yet figured out how to do Mater’s southern accent, but give him time.

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Mid-morning brings Polish lessons. Babcia has sent the Boy some coloring books, so he joins in the Polish lessons as well. He’s much more enthusiastic, but that probably has a lot to do with the difficult of his lessons compared to the Girl’s. She’s learning to read in Polish, and that’s a struggle for her. It’s not so much that the reading is difficult. She’s an excellent reader in English, and I think her frustration comes from that contrast. She often complains about doing “baby work” when K asks her to sound out a new long word.

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The newest Saturday morning ritual: bread. “It’s a good hobby to have,” a friend commented, and indeed it is. But like L’s view of Polish, it’s a little harder than it looks.

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“It’s a real art,” K says every time she bakes a loaf.

Afternoon Exploring

The pictures are from yesterday, but today was the same. We wander about the backyard, cross over to our neighbors’ yard, all the while pretending we’re exploring the Amazon rainforest. We’ve discovered snakes that can look like trees, leaves that can come alive, rocks that can attack. And a swing.

Maybe head to the smooth, newly-paved road that T-intersects ours right across from our house. Maybe ride on into the grass.

Two afternoons, almost identical. Yet different in every way.

Henry Goes to Time Out

One day, Henry was feeling playful. He met Emily as she chugged along, but he was going in the opposite direction on the same track. Emily braked hard and managed to stop just in time.

“Henry, what are you doing?!” she cried.

Instead of answering, Henry began pushing Emily.

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“You’ve heard of Tug of War, haven’t you?” laughed Henry. “This is Chug of War!” He pushed with all his steam as Emily, who was not laughing, chugged just as hard against him.

“Henry, will you stop it? We’re going to get carried away and derail ourselves!”

But Henry was having too much fun. He chugged, and chugged, and chugged until there was a great clatter of and screech as Emily and all her cars crashed to the side of the tracks.

“Now you’ve done it!” shouted Emily as she struggled to right herself. “You’re going to be in so much trouble!”

Henry, trying the help, suddenly jerked backwards only to find himself off the tracks as well.

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Henry felt bad. He never meant to hurt Emily. He really liked Emily. They’d always had good times together, but this time, he’d just gone too far.

He knew he was going to be in trouble. He could just imagine Sir Topham Hatt’s face, but he didn’t have to imagine. Sir Topham Hatt came down as soon as he heard about the terrible accident.

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“Oh, Sir Topham Hatt, I didn’t mean to. I mean. It’s just that…”

“Well, Henry, you’ve gone too far this time,” Sir Topham Hatt interrupted. “You’ll see just how serious this is in just a moment.”

Sure enough, Henry saw just how serious it was when Sheriff from Cars showed up.

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“Well,” said Sheriff, “the first thing we need to do is get these trains back on the tracks.”

Sir Topham Hatt called Kevin and Harvey to put the trains both back on the tracks.

Just as Henry was about to chug away, the Sheriff called after him. “Henry, you will be coming with me, I’m afraid.

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“I really didn’t mean to hurt anyone,” Henry said as he chugged beside Sheriff. “I just wanted to have a bit of fun. Emily likes to have fun.”

“Henry, did she say to stop?” Sheriff asked.

“Well,” began Henry.

“When trains ask you not to do something, you should stop. That means it’s not fun for them,” Sheriff explained.

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“I know you didn’t mean it, but there still are consequences for our actions,” Sheriff explained.

“What?”

“Time out.”

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Just after Sheriff left, Toby and James chugged past.

“Oh, Henry, what happened? Why are you in time out?” asked Toby.

“I did something… something…” Henry stammered.

“Not useful?” Toby suggested.

“That’s it exactly. And Sheriff traveled back in time, crossed the Atlantic ocean, and left his movie to come into our story just to take me to time out!”

“Oh no!”

“And that’s not what’s the worst part of it! The worst part is that I didn’t mean to do any of it!”

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Toby and James felt bad for Henry. They knew what it was like to get in trouble for something you don’t really mean to do. They were afraid all the other trains would be angry at Henry so they chugged off to the Tidmouth Sheds to explain to the other the other engines what happened. As they were explaining, Sheriff rolled up.

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“Did you talk to Henry?” he asked.

“Yes, we. I mean, no. I mean,” stammered Toby.

“Yes, we talked to Henry,” James said sadly.

“While he was in time out?”

James and Toby exchanged guilty glances before admitting the truth.

“We knew we weren’t supposed to, but…”

Sheriff didn’t even wait.

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“Off you go to time out as well!”


Such was our morning play.

Begin and End in the Kitchen

The day obviously starts in the kitchen. But it’s more than food and preparation for the day. The Boy has a favorite book lately — Hot Rod Hamster — and on a whim, the Girl decides to read it to him. I read it to him last night; K read it to him the night before. But that’s not enough: he could listen to that book every single day, most likely because of the basic interactivity of it. Hot Rod Hamster, you see, has to choose the parts of his car, and the author often asks the reader, “Which would you choose?” By now everyone in the family knows which one he would choose, but that’s not the point.

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The day also ends in the kitchen, with play. The office chair in which I now sit is a favorite toy, for it swivels in endless circles.

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To the delight of both kids.

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Hiding

We played hide and seek for a bit this evening — historically a simple game with the Girl. Always so easily frightened, she would hide in the same places, places that felt safe and relatively near people, again and again, and it was never really all that difficult to find her. It was even easier when she was a toddler and would reply to the standard “Ready or not, here I come!” with a confirmation: “I’m ready!”

Today, playing with the Boy, we couldn’t find her. I directed the Boy to look in all the usual places, but she was in none of the usual places.

“Could she have dared to go downstairs?” I asked the Boy rhetorically, for his standard answer these days is “Yep.”

But we kept looking, adding a few new places. In her closet. Under K’s and my bed. Under the Boy’s bed. Finally, it was time for dinner, and we gave up. But I knew one trick to get her out: turn off all the upstairs lights.

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And as I headed downstairs, there she was, in the hall closet, where she’d never hidden before. Where I would have never thought to look because imagining her closing herself in a tight dark space was simply unimaginable.

An eight-year-old is braver than a seven-year-old, it seems. A second-grader is able to keep quiet for a lot longer than a first-grader, it seems.