In the morning, a bike ride. The kids don’t really want to go, but it’s supposed to rain on and off throughout the day, and they need exercise, so I all but force them. L fusses about one thing; E has a wreck (due to his own carelessness) and ends up fussy for some time; I fuss about their fussing. It’s easy to get caught up in the negative and let it chart the day’s course for you if you’re not careful. Not deliberate.

So I try to make things a little more careful, a little more deliberate. We get back and spend a fair amount of time, just the three of us, working on our bikes’ brakes. They’re all squeaking and squawking like feral hogs tied to deranged cats. For each bike, we loosen everything — cables, brake pads, centering screws — and recalibrate everything. As we’re working, I like to think that the kids are enjoying learning something, but I’m not sure. In fact, I rather doubt it. But there’s still some value in this, even if it’s just spending time together solving a problem.

After dinner, the Girl decides she wants to play Hearts with Papa, K, and me. E is across the street playing with neighbors, and he’s not able to follow a game with tricks and trumps just yet, so we play just the four of us.

We play eight hands, and in a surprise — I never win at games — I destroy everyone. L is the nearest to me, and she has almost double the points I have.

After the Boy comes in, he suggests War — he’s just learned it, and he likes it. One of two card games (Uno being the other one) that he enjoys.

I take the opportunity to take a few pictures. In the end, I can’t decide between three action shots, so I include them all. And the other two shots? They’re winning hands the Boy is particularly proud of. In the first one, the Girl gives him rabbit ears; in the second, he’s wised up.

Once I put the Boy to bed, I grab L and take her down to watch a movie. It’s the second night we’ve done this. Last night, I showed her The Help. It’s a good sign when she wants the movie paused when she leaves to get a snack; last night, she paused it herself. Tonight we watch a quirky British romantic comedy, About Time. It’s about making the most of life by looking at each day as a treasure. We all need to be reminded of that from time to time, especially a thirteen-year-old and her cranky father.