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W-wa Day One

Where do you start when you get back from a day of wandering about Warsaw and you have almost 400 pictures that you manage only to whittle down to 78? At the beginning.

We're all tired from our intense pace these first few days, and it showed when we all collapsed into bed: it was eleven by the time we headed out the next morning. I'd already been out quickly for baked goods for breakfast. A friend who'd visited last night told us she'd passed a promising looking bakery on her way here, so I retraced her steps looking for it. I knew she'd taken the metro to get here, and the nearest station is Rondo ONZ, so I walked along Świętokrzyska Street toward the metro stop, but I saw nothing but old-style shops, all closed for renovation. I kind of wished at least one of them was still open. Still, even with everything closed, it looks like the Warsaw I knew in the late 1990s.

I couldn't find the bakery A had mentioned, but I knew that if I just wandered around a bit in a systematic way, I'd find one. And sure enough, half a block later, there was Piekarnia Aromat. This was no typical Polish bakery: not a regular drozdzowka or rose-filled donut to be found. Instead there were things like raspberry brioche and something called "buleczka z pistacjami." Literally, "a roll with pistachios," it was a big hit with everyone -- but L, of course. She was happy with her chocolate filled something-or-other.

Our plan for today was simple. In fact, we only had one thing on the agenda: Łazienki Park. It was a cool, overcast day -- perfect for a long walk in the park. In the end, we spent about five hours there, and we could have all easily spent more.

First, though, we had to get there. We walked down along the edge of Park Świętokrzyski on our way to the Świętokrzyska metro station. The Boy was already counting the modes of new transport he'd experienced: "First a train, now the subway!" He thought for a moment and asked about trams.

"Later. Maybe even today."

"Yesss!" (At one point the other day, when encouraged to "mow po polsku" he explained that "taaaaaak!" just doesn't express happiness like "Yesssss!").

A few stops later, we got off at Politechnika station, walked a few hundred meters (which included a surprise: a rescue vehicle roared out of the station right as we approached),

and there we were, in the famed Łazienki Park by the statue of Józef Piłsudski. The Boy insisted on a picture.

We wandered around a bit and took a gondola ride. The Boy managed to chalk up another mode of transportation, and the gondolier provided a bit of history, including the sad fact that the peacocks and other animals are harassed almost incessantly. "People will be people," he concluded rather stoically.

As we were disembarking from the gondola, we met M and her son E, and with our life-long Varsovian as a guide, we continued through the park, eventually making it to the Old Orangery, which is filled with statuary and busts of the most eclectic collection: busts of various Roman emperors -- including Caligula -- fill the garden, while the interior itself is filled with busts for famous Poles in history, most of them completed by Italians.

As we were leaving, we came upon a group of young people, probably ages eleven to fifteen, who were starting some kind of drawing exercise. The lady running it asked L her name, jotted it down on a name tag with the comment that she was the third L in the group, and gave her some charcoal pencils. ("See, I told you," laughed M later. "'L' has become a very popular name in Warsaw.")

It turned out that it was a two-hour program. L begged to stay. She didn't have to beg long. K and I were both thrilled that she had taken the initiative to participate in something like this. We explained that we wouldn't stick around, that we'd leave her there and explore the park further on our own.

"That's fine."

"And you haven't eaten since breakfast. You won't be able to each for two hours more at least."

"That's fine."

Our girl is growing up.

We left her among the statuary and went in search of gofry and ice cream. And people watching.

Łazienki Park is perhaps the best place in Warsaw to people-watch. There is an incredible mix of people: tourists, locals from two to one hundred and two, families, lovers.

We returned to a happy girl with two gofry to snack on as we made our way to M's apartment, where her husband J was cooking dinner for us. Along the way, the big D300 put away, I snapped pictures with the little X100, trying to capture a few images that show the old Warsaw and the new, sometimes separately, sometimes juxtaposed.

There was the drug store that looked just like shops did when I arrived first in 1996.

There was an enclosed soccer field that seemed timeless, as if it had always been there.

School in Warsaw

There was a middle school with graffiti and rebar.

"Ja tutaj mieso mam!"

A newstand ("This, this, this is a newstand! I have meat here!" came to mind, a line from my favorite Polish film. In Mis, though, the newstand is not in a kiosk but its own building.) across from a used clothing store that sells clothes by weight.

And lots of people just going about their business.

Dinner and the evening flew by as it does with friends you haven't seen in years. The conversation ranged far and wide, and for once there were no worries about whose toes we might step on with this or that comment when things turned to more political matters. We don't see eye-to-eye on everything, and we can talk about it rationally and leave disagreements be. Not that that happened this evening. Parenting and parenthood tended to dominate the conversation and the environment in general.

After dinner, one last adventure: a neighborhood concert just a few blocks away in Szare Domy, a neighborhood of blocks of flats dating from the twenties that have small garden areas tucked in between the blocks. Usually closed off to non-residents, the neighborhood was throwing something like a block party, and everyone was invited.

The kids played. The adults chatted. The residents who stayed at home watched from the balcony.

Finally, around nine, everyone called it an evening. The Ds went back to their apartment after walking us to the nearest tram stop.

We made it back to Emilii Platter Street without worries, did some shopping, and had a final, amusing encounter. Walking out of the shop, E asked K, "Mommy, can I have the banana now?"

"No, just wait till we get back to the apartment," she replied in Polish.

A young man sitting on a bench called out after us in English: "Why does he speak English when she speaks Polish?"

I turned around and summed it up as quickly as I could: "American reality."

A few more pictures are at Flickr. I didn't manage to get all seventy-something pictures worked into this post.

Boze Cialo

The terrace was all abuzz. The two grandmothers were chatting about details of the procession through the village earlier in the day. Grandpa was chatting with me about women and shopping. And a little blond angel was crying hysterically because of an unseen fall. Within all of this came the question: "Where are E and M?" We hadn't seen them in some time and hadn't heard them for a bit longer. Yet no one was worried. No panic. No flood of adults heading off in every direction, calling their names. "They'll show up soon enough," said grandpa, and within ten or fifteen minutes, there they were.

Village life. No worries about the kids when they disappear. No fears about the strangers among us because there are none. A certain kind of innocence that brings out both the good and the bad in people.

We spent the day in Pyzowka, a small village spread along the ridges of several hills just oustide of Nowy Targ, the nearest Polish town of any significance to Jablonka. Pyzowka is always a recurring destination, not only because of its beauty but also because of who lives there: D has been K's best friend since childhood, the closest thing to a sister K has ever had. She is the Girl's godmother and now, by proxy, a good friend of mine along with her husband, G. We always end up there a time or three while visiting the Old Country for the girls to catch up on gossip and that magic of just being in the same room together again. This year, though, because of various complications, today was the one and only day they could meet, so we went to Pyzowka for Corpus Christi.

Shortly after I first arrived in Poland in 1996, I encountered Corpus Christi for the first time. I had no idea what I was viewing. I prided myself on the depth of my understanding of Christianity that was in reality not even as deep as a small puddle of water. I had rejected it all because I knew better. Typical youthful arrogance, I suppose. Yet the first time I witnessed Corpus Christi, I began to understand that I didn't understand.

Unknown Corpus Christi

Twenty-one years later and I'm a participant in the Mass on this holy day, a participant in the procession. I snap pictures as discretely as possible because I'm starting to understand the significance of the day, of the procession. Do I believe it all? That's hard to say. Where do questions leave off and doubt begin? Perhaps it doesn't matter in the end: I've come to see a certain beauty in the communal nature of Catholicism that makes me think that even if again I lost all my faith (the little strands I hold on to), I would still participate because of the value I see in simple act of people coming together and humbly submitting themselves to something bigger than they are. Such humility is rare these days, it seems.

Today's celebration, though, highlighted the flavor a Polish village imparts on Corpus Christi. The procession began at the church and wound its way through much of the village.

At least twice cars approached, saw the whole road blocked with the procession of about 500 or so people, and turned around. I can't imagine something like that happening in America or even a larger city in Poland. Life goes on despite holy days and celebrations, and in America of course, the vast majority of the population begin non-Catholics have varying opinions of Catholicism that color how they would view such a procession, mostly affecting the negativity of the hue, truth be told. At least in the South, where we live. That's why the processions in America tend to be just around the church itself, not out into public itself.

After the procession, we had lunch at D's before heading to the other side of the village to visit D's parents, who are those rare Poles who packed up and moved from one village to another, almost as if they were Americans. Most Poles build a house and stay there. Stay there. But after several years of serving Jablonka's animals as a veterinarian, D's father and mother moved back to the village they grew up in.

While there, cousins and their families arrived, and we all sat around and ate and drank and chatted. It was then, at the close of day, that I really saw the magic of a Polish village. It's only magical if you have connections, if you have someone who grounds you there. That almost seems axiomatic, but it shows why nothing like Polish village life exists in mobile America. Packing up and moving across the city, across the state, or even across the country is no big deal. Put your house on the market, find a new place, and arrange for movers. It's as simple as that. But it's far from simple when you really look at it. Roots can't grow when you're constantly transplanting.

The Market

One of the things the Boy is most excited about our coming summer in Poland is going to the market on Wednesday.

The Girl, too.

Late Morning at Furman

Evening Soccer

Dessert

Awards Day

Four awards, including all A's.

Huntington Beach 2017

We put it off several times: once, because someone was sick; a second time, because the timing was no longer convenient. Did we put it off a third time? I can't remember. But this weekend has been a long time in the making. We were originally going to spend last Labor Day weekend at Huntington Beach, but we ended up spending Memorial Day -- that seems appropriate, timing-wise, as they two three-day weekends bookend the school year.

We first went about six years ago.

We fell in love immediately. We went back again at some point, but none of us can remember when exactly. It was pre-E, for sure, but that's about all we can remember. Perhaps the link above is to our second visit? it all gets smeared in the memory. I reread the entry and find this:

Her first beach experience, some two years ago, was moderately traumatic for her. The sound of the waves terrified her, and the waves were forever chasing her form the water’s edge when she finally got the nerve to approach.

This year was different.

That first time at the ocean was at Edisto, so this must be have been our first time at Huntington. Still, it's only a year before the Boy's birth: when did we go again, pre-E? Again, smeared it the memory.

So I want to set about to to write down all the details of this experience I can remember, knowing that if I don't, I won't remember it. But I set out doing so with the understanding that I will only pick and choose, letting the pictures do the rest.

The first day we arrived and, after setting up camp, headed out to the beach. The Girl took her boogie board out to test the waves; the Boy, after a few minutes, turned to the gigantic sand box that lay all around him. Then they switched. That pretty much sums up the entire weekend: playing in the sand, playing in the waves. After all, what else can you do at the beach?

But there were the subtle changes. L, no longer afraid of the water, gradually found the courage to go out with me a little further than before, looking for more boggie-board-able waves. The Boy was at first reticent to go far beyond the last little crests and bubbles of waves that had been churning inland for some tens of feet. He finally found the courage, with a little help from K and me, to go out further, and to require less of a reassuring hand while doing so.

Day two started at Brookgreen Gardens. "We've been here three times now -- we have to go," declared K. It is famous for its sculptures, a fact interested me and bored L -- until she started seeing statues from Greek mythology, her current obsession thanks to the Percy Jackson series.

The final day -- another morning on the beach.

A perfect weekend, over all.

Batting Practice

Fifth Birthday Party

The Boy woke up at six this morning, ready to go. He'd been worried since Wednesday when he came home with a fever: "Will I be okay by my party?" he asked. Certainly. So this morning, he had his materials packed -- cars and guns and other toys stuffed into the book bag Nana and Papa gave him for his birthday earlier in the week -- and by the door by half-past-seven.

Later in the morning, he was packing his goodie bags for his guests, filling them with the Polish sweets he and K had chosen at the local Russian store (of course it's called "Euro Market" or something similar, but like most Euro Markets, it seems, it's a Russian owner). I sat down and glanced at the "Time Machine" links just at the bottom of the page as is my Saturday morning custom, and there was a post about holding the Boy when he was just a few weeks old.

Long gone are the days when you can hold him in the crook of your arm. Now it's difficult to pick him up. When he falls asleep in Mass, it's always in K's arms, and I almost always end up holding him during the Liturgy of the Eucharist, which means figuring out a way to kneel and hold a sack of concrete.

By the time it was actually time to head to the party, the Boy was more than ready, all nearly-fifty pounds of him.

The party itself was bliss for him. Many of his friends from pre-school came, as well as neighbors and kids from the Polish community. K brought some games for everyone to play, including a sack race, but in the end, what was most successful was what was simplest: E's toys.

The Girl, though was sick, which accounts for her absence as well as Nana's and Papa's.