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Spring Sunday

Today was such lovely weather that we knew we had to head to our favorite park for a walk. The plan was to head out after lunch. It would just be K, E, and I because L was out all day, working and completing various obligations.

It's just the three of us more and more often, which is understandable: the Girl is about to finish her junior year of high school, and she's increasingly independent. She's always been independent, but with a car, a job, and social life, K and I sometimes worry that she might be a little too independent.

Just before lunch, though, plans changed: E's close friend invited him over for the afternoon.

"So I guess it's just the two of us," K said.

We're used to that, in theory, but we've been a four of us for so long that it's a distant memory more than anything else.

A distant memory that's becoming an ever-nearing future.

After the walk, K and I spend some time in the yard. She trimmed the roses and hedges; I mowed the lawn for the first time this year.

All in all, a perfect little Sunday.

Swinging 2010

Found a never-posted video.

Orlando Return

The girls spent the weekend in Orlando at the — guess! You’ll never guess — Sunshine Qualifier volleyball tournament, and K was sending me pictures the whole time, but I neglected to post them here.

“This might be the last time you’re here,” L told K when K was talking about all the food options there, “so enjoy it!”

Last time K is there? Well, I am taking her to Nationals in Orlando in June, but what about next year?

Truth be told, this might very well be the last club season for us. If L doesn’t get a volleyball-based scholarship, there will be very little motivation to spend the time and money next year. Does this mean she’s giving up on her dream? Not really—academic scholarships have always been more likely (the girl is ranked 11 in a class of 400+ students) and she’s never experienced anything other than success in school. I think her lowest grade of high school is a 94 or 95.

Atlanta VB

The Girl

That ain’t us

"Every single kid in this class been suspended at least once."

It was a fair claim, and honestly speaking, I knew the girl who said it might actually be right. At least for half a second, that's what I thought. A quiet voice beside me reminded me that that probably wasn't the case.

"I haven't."

The shy words came from one of the best students in the class, a hard work boy who never has any behavior problems. The two girls with whom I was speaking -- with whom I'd drifted so off topic from our classwork that I felt somewhat guilty continuing it and did so only because of a perceived need to explain some basic facts to some confused girls -- the two girls just looked at him. I jumped in.

"And in fact I can show you a whole class of students that have never been suspended." I had in mind my honors group, but times are changing, and being in an honors class no longer necessarily means perfect behavior, so they argued, tossing a couple of names at me. Knowing they were likely right, I persisted nonetheless in asserting that none of them had been suspended.

Finally, the girls turned to the fatalistic refrain of at-risk kids: "Well, that's them, not us."

"But it could be you," I suggested, and one would think I'd suggested that they could fly to the moons of Jupiter by their own power, such was the looks of disbelief.

"That ain't us!" they insisted.

First Tournament Back

The Girl played in her first tournament since her stomach issues today. Her team went 3-0, not dropping a single set.

And our Girl was on the court again, doing what she loves again.

It was good to see.

The Girls

I was on my way out to my car when the two little Muslim sisters (I knew this because they both cover their heads with scarves) passed me. I greeted them and somehow, we began talking. A group of their friends, all girls, gathered around us, all talking to me at almost the same time. I asked them where they're from, and one girl said that she's from Afghanistan.

"Do you speak Dari or Pashto at home?" I asked. Her jaw dropped.

"You know those?!"

"No, no, not how to speak them. I just know they exist. I know they're the primary languages of Afghanistan."

She smiled ear to ear: "We speak Pashto."

"I'm from Iran," another girl said. "I speak Persian at home."

"Oh -- Farsi, right? Isn't 'thank you' in Farsi 'Mersi'?" I asked.

Another jaw dropped.

"I just always found it strangely beautiful that it's a loan word from French."

"Do you speak French" the lone boy asked.

"Un peu," I responded, winking, hoping he wouldn't push me beyond my meager limits in the language.

But before that could happen, one of the young covered girls announced, "I'm Fatima!" They'd been telling me their names, and she finally got hers squeezed in.

"Oh, like the prophet Mohammed's daughter, right?" I asked.

Her eyes got enormous and she ran back into the classroom, presumably to tell someone.

The fact that I know these little tidbits seemed to me simply basic education about other cultures. I know Dari and Pashto were Afghan languages because of our country's involvement in that country and learning a little about it and its history at that point. I know "mersi" was one way in Farsi to say "thank you" because I sat next to an Iranian woman and her child on a flight from Charlotte to Munich in 2015 when I followed K and the kids to Poland a few weeks after they'd left. I know Mohammed's daughter was Fatima because I read parts of a book about the supposed apparitions of Mary at Fatima. I know a bit of French because I too two years of it in college. Just a few tidbits of knowledge about these girls' (and one boy's) language and culture, but it seemed to make their day.

So little to create so much.

From Babia

Today’s Only Picture

One of the things we accomplished this weekend was getting a new computer for the Boy. The Girl needs one, too, but we still don't know the specs she'll need for what programs she might be running in college. So today I got the computer set up and snapped a picture to text to E. He was at his friend's house having some needed buddy time. However, he'd left his phone at home. So it was for naught. But I got a picture for the day out of it...