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Friends and Landscapes

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D has been K's best friend for as long as I've know K, and at least ten years longer. She was K's guardian angel during our wedding, always fixing K's veil, K's hair, K's dress -- always fixing.

Today, we went to the village D and her family now call home: Pyzowka. I could go on and on about this and that, about how it's such a beautiful village situated perfectly in hills that look on mountains. About how the girls loved the visit, especially the time wih D's daughter. About how the time with good friends always ends up with smiles and laughter.

I could go on and on about all that, but the pictures speak for themselves.

Pyzowka is a village that in a sense no longer exists in Poland. Villages that used to rely on farming and were powered by horses are no longer either. What has happened? A mass exodus? Demographics? Perhaps a little of both.

My own experiences in Lipnica -- itself a time machine -- many children paid special attention to English lessons because they promised the possibility of escape.

One former student told me, "One woman I clean for asked me, 'Where did you learn to speak English well?' I replied, 'I had a great English teacher.'" I was flattered, to say the least. And I saw for the first time how I sold the only ticket out of the village.

"It's better than working in the fields."

Often I saw my students working in the fields over the summer. For them, a summer break made sense, for they still lived the reality that inspired the summer break throughout the Western world. In the States, I'm not so sure it's necessary.

And so everyone wanted to escape. And I returned. And probably would return again if the stars aligned themselves.

After all, who could ever think of escaping views like this?

"If I lived in Pyzowka," I told K, "I would to for a walk every stinking day."

"I know," she replied.

"Today didn't stink!" proclaimed L from the back seat.

Point taken.

Still, if you had views like this, wouldn't you head out for a stroll as often as humanly possible?

And if you had friends like this, wouldn't you visit them as often as possible?

The Cold and the Rain

Rain, ten degrees Celsius -- you might say that it's a perfect Polish summer, but that would be too pessimistic. Yet rain or shine, the cousins must swing.

And play in the small play house Dziadek built.

Yet there is a bit of frustration. L understands Polish perfectly; her willingness to speak it is a different situation entirely. As they're swinging, S asks, "Dlaczego ciagle mowisz po angielsku?" "Why are you constantly speaking English?" "Dobra pytania" I respond, yet L says nothing. Instead she begins the international language of three-year-olds: she begins making as many odd sounds as possible.

In the end, the swing was the hit of the day. With aunt Dominika, Kinga, and I, the girls must have swung for ten hours straight. Perhaps that's an exaggeration, but not by much.

In the meantime, Babcia chases the newest member of the family -- a little mixed puppy -- for digging up her flowers, for about the tenth time. "Ja cie dam!" cried babcia, half seriously, half in jest. "Ja cie dam!"

Poles would call such a day "dzien barowy" -- a bar day. But we're not here to sit in a bar. We're here to visit, and visit with determination. And so we head to the school where I taught for seven years.

I meet several colleagues with whom I worked even in 1996, but we're all a little older, a little more experienced. The exception is a young lady who was still in middle school when I arrived fourteen years ago (eighth grade) and now teaches high school. My replacement, one might say, but I guess one would be wrong. Time passes and replacement become irrelevant. All things being fluid in the twenty-first century, talk of replacements is useless.

As we wonder through the school, I begin thinking about how little has changed, which is the nature of teaching: one spends years in the same grade only to realize that, from a certain point of view, one has been running in place. I stay forever in eighth grade now; in Poland, I stayed forever in high school. The results are, more or less, the same.

There are some things, though, that can't be replaced, like a virtual Mama. After dropping by the school, we stop by to visit the family with whom I lived for some time after returning to Poland in 2001. I'm greeted with hugs and "Synku!" It's like a homecoming. It is a homecoming.

We meet the two chicks my Polish Mother (PM for future references) saved from certain death when they fell from the nest and made just enough noise for her to hear.

They're the hit of the day.

A constant, consistent attraction during our visit.

"I want to see the birds!"

And as a result really get no rest during our visit.

But panic builds instincts and reaction. Or so I'm told.

So I've heard, but what do I know? That an evening of football (aka soccer) and assorted liquids makes one less than perfectly willing to blog at eleven o'clock...

Posing and Playing

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Sunday Afternoon

We thought about going to the beach today. None of us really wanted to -- well, none of us who would have been doing the driving and paying. We ended up going to the park for some bike riding:

And then to McDonald's for shakes and a televised softball game:

We all felt thoroughly red, white, and blue.

Running Club

When I was around six, I was obsessed with Star Wars (especially the action figures), and my father was obsessed with running. I shared my obsession with him (naturally), and he came up with a way to join our interests: incentivized running. For every mile, as memory serves, that I ran, I got a new Star Wars figure. Most often, I managed to make a lap around the quarter-mile track before heading to the long-jump pit to play in the sand. It took me a long time to get a figure. (Then I discovered that holding my father's hand as I ran made all the pain disappear: I got figures more quickly soon after).

The Girl is starting even earlier than I, through her own choice. L's school has established a running club. For the children L's age, this means stretching out and running some laps around the parking lot every Thursday. At first, she wasn't keen on the idea. Then, as she saw her friends heading out every Thursday, she became curious. Finally, she asked, "Mommy, can I join the running club?"

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Today, we had our first run. It was probably less than a quarter of a mile, but for three-, four-, and five-year-olds (and the occasional older child), it was quite something.

It was not entirely surprising that said older children -- especially the boys -- took off at full speed.

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The rest, accompanied by parents, took a more leisurely approach.

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"Way to pace yourselves!" I called out as they passed.

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I was particularly proud to see the Girl's fine running form: relaxed, pumping the arms, taking good, long strides. She was running with a purpose: not to win any race (indeed, the adults constantly urged the kids not to think of it as a race but as a test of endurance), but merely to finish strong.

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And she did, with a brief walking break.

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Afterward, the celebration began, as did the rain. Rather than decrease excitement, however, the rain was merely an added bonus: what three-year-old doesn't love stomping in puddles?

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And more.

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Toward the end, the water balloons appeared, and the morning's DJ was a favored target -- not without some encouragement from the DJ himself.

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The Patch

So many enjoyable things require so little effort or money. Thinking of what to do this afternoon, K suggested we go strawberry picking. The Girl was soon excited, then disappointed when it began raining, then thrilled when it stopped.

"Can we go? Can we go?"

Half an hour later, L had her first fruit.

Within less than fifteen minutes, we had two buckets of berries.

We probably would have filled the buckets even sooner if we weren't snacking so frequently. L used the 1-2 method: pick one, eat two.

It is a favored method...

Big Bed

We've measured the Girl with her beds all her life.

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From the strange, transparent bassinet of the hospital to her latest upgrade, L's bed has served as a constant against which to measure her growth.

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For most of her life, she's had the same crib, though. In the early days, the mattress was high: she couldn't move about, so there was no danger, and it put her within easy reach. She soon outgrew it, though: as soon as she began rolling around and pulling herself up, we had to lower the springs that suspended the mattress.

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But it seemed like she was able to crawl out of it almost instantly. We began thinking about changing it to a day bed, but we never quite made it. Instead, we jumped straight to the full.

"You'll have a new bed when you get home," K told the Girl as she took her to Nana and Papa's house today. We were eager to see her reaction: would she be frightened (L doesn't like changes) or thrilled?

The response:

squeals and shrieks.

The next test: would she like the bedding selections? After all, there was not a single princess to be seen.

But there were flowers -- almost as good.

There was little left to do but practice snoring in the big bed.

Pathetique

When we got our tax return, K and I decided to invest a small amount into a piano. We considered a Steinway Concert Grand, but at close to a thousand pounds, we thought the floor might not agree. We settled for a digital, and the three of us have been playing away.

I've managed to pick up where I left off twenty-some years ago: the second movement to Beethoven's Pathetique sonata.

I've been looking for different versions on YouTube.

Gould, in typical Gouldian fashion, turns it into something up-tempo. "Look how fast I can play this!"

The result is not adagio cantabile; it's a march.

Daniel Barenboim gives a very thoughtful performance, but he leans a little too much on the sustain pedal.

For L's part, she's content just to bang. For now. We hope...

Meeting with Friends

It took some time, but the Girl finally got to spend out-of-school time with one of her best friends from daycare. With so much anticipation, there was only one fitting destination: the zoo.

"I have a lot of energy right now," the Girl told me yesterday, pointing to her chest and adding, "In my body." It's common for three-year-olds, I suppose. Two of them together had an exponential effect. "Guys, slow down!" was the day's mantra.

It was a day of firsts -- not first-time experiences, but merely who could be first.

"Do you want a picture with the giraffe," we asked, and they bolted to the first photo set, the Girl reaching it first and shoving her head and shoulders triumphantly through the opening.

"I'm supposed to be first."

With some cajoling and physical manipulation, we managed to get them both in the frame. For all of 1.5 seconds, they sat still for a picture, then bolted off in different directions: the only sure way to make sure one is first.

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The energy must have been contagious, for all the animals were unusually active. The reptiles were slithering about in their displays, and the four-year-old orangutan, Baby Bob, was climbing, rolling, and jumping.

Just more examples of the continuity among the animal kingdom's pre-schoolers.

A Perfect Weekend

A perfect weekend might center around something like this:

Friends and family, good food and good conversation. That’s all the adults need.

L looks for something a little more active. Three dogs might just do the trick.

Three dogs and a swing raise the probability of satisfaction to nearly 100%

Three dogs, a swing, and a row of azaleas — well, perhaps we’re pushing our luck with that one. L loves flowers, but only insofar as they are pickable and portable. Lately she likes to pick flowers, tote them about a bit, crush them with affection (like the cat), then proclaim that she’ll plant them in a glass of water in her room so they can grow.

They rarely do, but she never gives up.