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Memorable Memorial Day

"Oh, this will be a memorable Memorial Day!" became the common refrain in the house as M, T, and C visited.

L is endlessly excited every time they come -- "When will they get here?! When?!" -- and often overwhelmingly depressed when they leave. They call each other cousins (Why not sisters? I know not.) and have a grand adventure every time they get together.

Their visit this time was short but packed. Sunday evening we hosted a pizza and movie party with Nana and Papa. M was practically tripping over herself with excitement, and the chattering in L's room carried on into the late night. Yet still this morning, they were ready early as couldn't be expected for more fun. For another adventure. L and I introduced them to the various "hiding places" we've found along the drainage "creek" that runs behind our house, but as often happens, E was the real center of attention.

The afternoon, the girls, practically falling on themselves with excitement, talked us into a visit to Nana's and Papa's community's pool.

"The water will be cold." everyone warned. "It's been in the fifties and sixties at night."

Still, a bit of chilly water is nothing compared to the excitement of the first swim of the season. The adults sat out; the girls jumped in. Perhaps that's something of a harbinger of things to come as they grow older and we beside them? A growing reluctance to take risks in direct proportion to their willingness?

After M, T, and C left, we spent some more time outside, letting the Boy lead the way. The discovery of a great stick was the highlight for him; the discovery of virtually-flightless baby birds out of the nest was the worry for us. I managed to deposit one of the chicks in the nest in the turn of our gutter's downspout, but the other hopped merrily away, into the street, its mother squawking nearby, trying to coax baby out of the road. In the meantime, E was heading, full steam, toward the embankment leading to the front ditch. K darted to him just as he'd turned around and prepared himself to sit up -- which would have lasted only as long as it took for him to lose his balance and go tumbling down the embankment. She led him back up the hill to the accompaniment of the mother bird, still fussing at her own baby.

Two moms, doing their jobs.

Mirroring Life

Three girls in the Girl's room. It's Memorial Day, so they have the day off. As such, they do the logical: they play school.

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An unconnected series of photos of the evening.

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Perhaps we could search for a theme, like “growth.”

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Then again, that’s a catch-all theme when you have a six-year-old and a twelve-month-old.

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Growth is every day.

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Blooms happen regularly.

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End of Year Bash

Silly string, rock climbing, swinging, and general six-year-old chaos. Bethel Bash!

Big Sister

There's a certain point, I think, when an older sister becomes a big sister. It might be soon after the birth of little brother; it might take a few years. Really, it all depends on the age of the sister, I think.

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But at some point, sooner or later, older sisters begin taking on themselves some of the responsibilities of looking after little brother. It might begin with playtime: "L, keep E in your room for a while as I start getting dinner ready" might be a first step.

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That's a relatively easy step. Big sister can half do her own thing, half entertain the Boy. The fact that they're in her room adds a degree of security: she certainly won't let E get into all that much because he has a tendency to mess things up.

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The real transition comes when big sister begins fulfilling some of the lower needs on Maslow's hierarchy.

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These are the responsibilities that aren't just fun. They're not low-engagement responsibilities.

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And when the older sister begins taking on those kinds of little jobs, we say, "Welcome, Big Sister! We've been waiting for you!"

Movie Star

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Feeding

It can be a joyful experience, with smiles and giggles and obvious relief on the face of the starving Boy. He opens his mouth wide; he waits patiently for the spoon; he closes his mouth slowly and seems to relish and inhale the food at the same time.

It can be a tragedy, with fussing and battling, with a head jerking back and forth in an almost desperate attempt to say "No!," with hands flailing and pushing away the spoon to make sure the message gets through.

Whatever the case, the cleaning that follows can be Herculean. Food smeared here, there and everywhere. Dried caked food on the chin, the cheeks, the forehead.

But it always ends the same.

Food is joy for the little man. All food. Any food. He tries it all, rejects almost nothing, and seems to relish even the most exotic offering.

Truth be told, that's a bit of a relief compared to the Girl, who still squawks and squeals whenever we try to get something new in her.

Change is good.

Maria

"How do you find a word that means 'Maria'?" the nuns ask early in Sound of Music. Showing that she might understand it a little better than I initially would have thought, the Girl calls her own name in response.

Photos by the Girl

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The Girl took a few shots during our afternoon walk.

Whispers of Summer

A rough few months: someone always missing. Papa, K and the Boy -- the family always seems divided.

Now, having them all together again, it's a lovely way to welcome the coming summer.

In a way, it's a whisper of what's coming for L and me: the cool evening today, the local libation, the soft sunset all are similar to summer in Poland, where L and I will be spending several weeks once school releases. We won't all be there: there will be someone missing from both sides, and that will cast a hue of hollowness at times. But only at times, for when we let it, joy can almost always overcome sadness.