matching tracksuits

fun in threes, sometimes fours

the girl

Out and About in Savannah

A playground next to a cemetery with Revolutionary War era monuments, the monuments worn illegible by centuries of rain and wind, surrounded by live oaks, the playground itself surrounded by magnolias and littered with Spanish Moss, with church bells ringing in the distance -- it all seems prototypically southern. E and I spent an hour in such a playground this morning while everyone else was in Mass: the Boy just didn't want to cooperate, and the lack of a viable way to isolate his fussing (i.e., a crying room) left me with few alternatives. We walked out of the church and within moments found ourselves at a playground beside Colonial Park Cemetery. E climbed and swinged, jumped and slid, and then we went for a short walk along the oyster-shell paved walk of the cemetery.

An ironically unplanned place for E and me to start our second day in Savannah for a number of reasons, not the least of which was the fact that our first site to see was Bonaventure Cemetery, the largest graveyard in the area and likely one of the largest in the south, famous from its staring role in Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil. The plan was simple: the Boy could sleep, and indeed he drifted off as we drove there, and we would have a chance for a pleasant walk in a lovely cemetery.

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Cemeteries always hold surprises, and Bonaventure didn't disappoint in that regard given the number of Jewish graves with Jewish and even Cyrillic inscriptions. L and I walked about with Babcia, commenting on the typically Jewish surnames we were discovering (Singer, Rosenberg, Goldstein, Cohn) and the tragic-comic nature of so much Jewish literature.

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The sunlight filtering through the Spanish Moss hanging on the countless Live Oaks cast a soft hue on everything and made it a perfect place to sit and perhaps read a book or chat about things of real importance, but we had a schedule and, once he woke, a hungry boy, so after Babcia and K triangulated and positioned themselves (it was imperative that Babcia call and ask her now-famous question, “Gdzie jestescie?”), we headed to the historic district for lunch and a walk.

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The former was a disaster at the over-price, over-rated Shrimp Factory that seemed to have irony on the menu (my jambalaya had microscopic shrimp that were few and far between) and slow service as the soup of the day. The latter was what could be expected in the most charming little city in the South. A riverside walk, wandering through streetside cafes (why didn't we eat in one of them?) with various buskers and plastic sculptures (what an odd combination, but there they were, opposite each other), and ice cream shops open in mid-January all soon put us in better spirits. What's not to love about Savannah, after all? It's the perfect tourist destination: small, wrapped in history, dotted with countless squares — and high real estate with no jobs for anyone, Babcia and K would add. Perhaps that's how the locals keep the average tourist from thinking the inevitable: what if we could move here?

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As the sun cast increasingly longer shadows and the chill returned to the air, we realized we were back near the church where we'd begun our day. K and Babcia took the kids to the playground where E and I started the day and I headed back to the Cathedral of St. John the Baptist, a church that actually looks, sounds, and feels like a church, with mult-level vaulted ceilings, sculptures of saints, stained glass, an enormous organ, and an echo.

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I headed back to the others, played with the kids a bit, and returned to the cemetery, this time with a camera, the sun once again filtering through the Spanish Moss but this time from the opposite direction.

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First Music

The first album I ever bought is one I'm almost loathe to admit to now. The second, less so: Boston's Third Stage. I was in seventh or eighth grade when I bought those albums, and it was no small feat, for my father had made a rule that he had to investigate and approve any music purchase I made. At the time, I thought it was ridiculous. As a father myself, now I understand.

Recently, L made a discovery: portable music is highly convenient. She's been taking my iPod about, listening to whatever she finds on there that strikes her fancy. That's almost fine: most of my music I'd willingly play for her, but there is this and that which I don't think she's quite ready for. Fortunately, she was more drawn to jazz than anything else. Ben Webster's "Late Date" was a particular favorite.

Still, there's always the risk of accidental discovery of something she's not quite ready for. So when L suggested she buy her own MP3 player with the money she's saved up, it seemed a good idea.

It came Wednesday, and I loaded it up with Ben Webster, Sonny Stitts, Buena Vista Social Club, Beatles, and similar selections, and K bought her the Frozen soundtrack as a first album.

And yet, as I sit here listening to the newest John Mayer on Spotify, I realize that by the time she'll be the age I was when I first bought my first album, iPods will even seem old-school. All music available all the time.

What will she listen to?

I'm not so much worried about what she'll listen to as I am the music her potential suitors will be drawn to. A boy who listens to misogynistic rap will likely be somewhat affected by it -- at the very least, his disregard for what the man is actually saying will be worrying. Of course with the prevalence of free online porn, what the young man might be listening to might be of less concern than what he's streaming on his phone.

All of this flashed in my thoughts as I saw L dancing about, singing along as best she could to a song she barely knows, and I thought that perhaps Babcia is right: the nineteenth century was so much better...

Using What You’ve Got

I arrive home and the Boy is in the backyard with Babcia, and he absolutely, positively doesn't want to come in. He's rediscovered the simplest toy, a found toy: a big pile of dirt. Add a couple of sticks, and he's positively in a daze of joy.

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He digs a little hole, moves to a new spot, digs a little hole, moves to a new spot, digs, moves, digs, moves, digs -- a circle that seems endless.

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Soon L stops illustrating the driveway with chalk sketches abstract and traditional and joins us in our digging. Soon, she has an idea: a stick forest.

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E and I head deeper into the wild of the backyard to find more sticks. He tugs at exposed roots, drags sticks until something else attracts his attention, looks up trees until he loses his balance, picks up rocks and tosses them, and together, the three of us spend almost an hour together laughing, exploring, and playing completely toy-free.

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The common regret of modern life: we're so spoiled that we're ruining ourselves. Imagination in kids today sometimes seems to be as illusive as quicksilver, but hopefully not in our children, and today, some evidence.

A stick forest.

Not a bad idea. Progress.

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New Park, New Experiences

After the cold, after the rain, after the dark, it was time yesterday finally to take the whole family out somewhere -- anywhere -- and do something. And so we packed the Girl's bike, the Boy's four-wheeler, some snacks, the camera, and Babcia and headed to a new park near Nana's and Papa's place. The boy has been doing circles in our house with his four-wheeler, but it's a route filled with sharp turns and short straightaways. Yesterday he was able finally to rev his vehicle up to its full potential. At times I found myself trotting beside him thinking, "Perhaps we should put a helmet on him."

We explored, took some pictures, chatted -- just what we needed.

Aligning and Sighting

Dear Santa,

You brought L a telescope.

Thanks.

You clearly didn't do a lot of thinking about how much of a puzzle it's going to be for all involved.

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And you clearly didn't care who would be doing the unraveling.

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But it's not that difficult in the end. Getting the sighting scope aligned was easier than I anticipated, so I guess you know what you're doing.

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And the excitement later in the evening, when I found and focused in on the moon...

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well, I guess it was worth it.

Moving On

For a while, it was Barbie. All Barbie, all the time. Barbie Volkswagen Beetle. Barbie bike. Barbie camper. One birthday, she got five, six Barbies, perhaps more. Like I said, all Barbie. So intense was her obsession that she even saved up all the money she got from grandparents and parents to buy a Barbie bike.

But interests change. Girls grow up. And soon enough the Girl informed us that we could pack away the Barbie camper. "I never play with it," she explained. It sat at the base of her bed, taking up valuable space. So back in the box -- honestly, it ever left, for the box was its garage -- and down to the basement.

Eventually, all the Barbies and paraphernalia ended up downstairs.

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Fast forward a few months. Our church's annual rummage sale -- An Angel's Attic it's called -- was approaching, and K was deciding what to sell. The subject of toys came up.

"You can sell all my Barbie stuff," the Girl suggested casually one evening. There was of course the question of who gets the proceeds, for the church gets thirty percent of donated goods while seventy percent goes back to the owner.

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Once it became clear that she would get some of the money, she was all for it. And so this morning, while the Girl was off with a friend at the local science center, K gathered all the Barbie plastic and a number of other items and arranged them on the bed.

"Go up and see if you're okay with selling everything on the bed," K instructed when the Girl when she arrived home. She bounded up the stairs and returned shortly.

"Yes, that's fine."

But not so fine with me: as expected, she's growing up faster than I was ever prepared to accept.

Checkout Line Lesson

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We buy a lot of yogurt: everyone in the house eats it, and so we head to the store on a regular basis on a yogurt run. This evening, L accompanied me after some hesitation: she was probably hopeful that she might get a little treat (we shared a bag of chips on the way home), but I was glad she was willing to go. She is not often.

We were standing in the checkout line, and L watched the customer-side screen that shows an itemized list of all the items purchased, along with the price.

"There's a lot of things for sixty cents," she observed.

"Well, what was the item we purchased the most of?"

She thought for a moment: "Yogurt."

"So?"

"It's all the yogurt!"

And then the real question I was interested in, for I've found myself these last months trying to teach my daughter some of the same things I'm teaching my eighth grade students. One of those skills is both the ability to infer and the ability to recognize when one is doing it. So I asked the question: "What skill did you just use?"

"Math?" A direct-from-observation-to-response answer: after all, she'd seen a lot of numbers clicking by, and it was what she'd paid most attention to.

"No. It begins with an 'i'," I prompt.

Nothing.

"Inferring."

"Oh, right."

The cashier, a young high school student, just smiled.

Babcia Learns to Play Sorry

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Singing Kids’ Songs

One of the unexpected results of having kids in the house is the tendency I have of late to start whistling, humming, or even singing “The Wheels on the Bus” or similar songs out of the blue, walking down the hall at school, cooking lunch for the kids, driving to have my oil changed…

A Walk Downtown, 2013