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The Other Half

"Half in Poland Edition" means that each half only appears to the other in the form of Skype chats and pictures. On a computer screen, in other words. Yet since I can't get K to write for MTS, I'm left filling in the blanks for the pictures.

The swimming pool at Nana's and Papa's is providing smiles and continual adventures.

The zoo is providing stimulation.

The small inflatable pool in the backyard is providing entertainment.

And though we're having a fine time on this side of the ocean, it would be better in some ways to be together on either side.

First Day at (Polish) School

It's L's first day at a Polish school, picking up with the kindergarten kids for their final two weeks of school. She was upset the night before: "I don't want to go!" was a common tearful refrain. "I don't want to go" are the first words out of her mouth this morning. But a little bribery works wonders: "After school, we'll stop in at Steskal's for an ice cream cone, and later today, we'll go visit a toy store."

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And so off we go, heading through the fields to school -- another "only in rural Poland" moment.

We meet with the director (not, it turns out, my former student, which is odd: I had two students with the exact same name, and now this makes the third female in this small area with the same first and last name), and she leads us to L's teacher. Each class is given a name like "Bumble Bees" and "Dragons" and this and that: a real mix of names. L has joined the "Forget-Me-Nots".

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It's a colorful room with an original bit of decoration in the middle.

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The first few minutes she's very clingy. She doesn't want to participate; she doesn't want to speak; she doesn't even want to show her face, literally. I coax her to a table of girls, and I begin chatting with them, hoping L will join in. They all introduce themselves, we talk a bit, and slowly L begins to come out of her shell. She eventually asks for a copy of the work the children are completing.

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Before long, the kids circle up, sitting "Turkish style" (a direct translation of the Polish equivalent of criss-cross-applesauce). Then there are games, marching, chanting, singing, generally silliness. L takes part, somewhat reluctantly.

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Soon it's time for the "second breakfast" (i.e., snack), and as the children are washing up, the teacher tells me that after snack, they're going to be the next in line to go out and look at the firetruck that has been sitting in front of the school most of the morning -- sort of a guided tour of a firefighter's world.

As we head out, another "rural Polska" moment, for we have to wait as an elderly dziadek drives his equally old tractor down the street, a tractor so old with such a weak engine that it has difficulty going over the speed bump. The driver has to throw it in reverse, getting up a little more momentum the second time, to roll over the bump.

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We cross the street and the presentation begins. The firefighters show the kids their oxygen masks, their aspirators, their hoses, their helmets -- in a word, everything.

Afterward, we all head back inside for the latest installment of Cała Polska Czyta Dzieciom -- All of Poland Reads to Its Children, roughly translated. Representatives of various professions have been coming to the school to read to the children, and today, it was a police officer's turn.

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Of course all the children are interested in one thing, and one thing only: the officer's pistol. The officer take the clip from the gun, gives it a tug to release any shell that might already be chambered, then holds it up for everyone to see. Since Poland, like most of Europe, has very strict limits on citizens' gun ownership rights (in short, there are none), most of these children have never seen a pistol in person (except on the belt of a police officer). It's a nine millimeter with a six-bullet magazine, the officer explains, and there's significant "Ooo'ing" and "Ahh'ing." I find myself thinking that had this happened in the States, some kid in the group would have raised his hand to explain that someone in his family has a nine millimeter with a seventeen-bullet magazine.

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But we're not in the States, and the gun produces the intended reaction, and as the children exit the room, the story has disappeared into a fog of chatting about the pistol, especially among the boys.

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But L has other things on her mind: there's a picture that's still only partially colored.

After school, as we walk with ice cream cones to the roar of tractor trailer trucks heading to Slovakia ("This is an international throughway now," Babcia has explained more than once), we talk about the day. L decides tomorrow she can stay a little longer, then Wednesday, the whole day. Provided we go to the flea market first.

She's turning Polish faster than I thought possible.

-ing in the Rain

Lately, Sundays and rain go together with us like any cliche classic pairing. A few weeks ago, during a friend's first communion, rain all day. Last week, when we were planning on having E's birthday party, rain through most of the day. Today, when we planned to go to the pool -- to squeeze in a visit before L and I head off to Polska -- rain through most of the day.

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The forecast: scattered showers.

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The reality: endless rain. But the Boy had fun running in the rain (the little bit we let him); the girls had fun chanting "Sun! Sun! Sun! Sun!" in an endless attempt to stop the rain; and we got some more rain.

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Heaven knows we need it.

Late Spring Growth

The garden is growing: snap peas are taking off and the tomatoes are fruiting abundantly thanks, I think, to a new pruning method recommended to me by the manager of a local university's organic garden. The grass seed I sprinkled almost haphazardly in the flat space among the trees at the base of our lot have sprouted finally. (The delay was due, in large measure, to simple neglect: it was an experiment. What happens if you just spread the seed and leave it alone? I guess we have our answer now.)

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But that growth outside the house seems insignificant compared to what's developing inside: the Boy is a walker now, able to walk twenty or more steps before collapsing to his hands and knees for something more sure and more familiar.

Today a walker; tomorrow, a runner.

It all happens too quickly.

E’s First Birthday Party

Almost three weeks have passed since the Boy turned one. Three weeks of postponing a party because of illness, because of Memorial Day, because of whatever. So the party is not just a year in the making; it’s a year and three crucial weeks in the making.

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We’d planned an outdoor party with games for the kids to correspond with Dzien Dziecka in Poland. A simple plan: potato sack race, water balloon toss, foot race, egg race, and other outdoor favorites starting around three in the afternoon. Afterward, an early dinner and cake.

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All outside. I mean, we have a dual-level deck, a carport (that actually used to be a screened patio), and a fairly abundant yard.

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It was a week of beautiful weather that we spent in school and at work. But this party shone in the near-future as a reward for all our time inside that we really wanted to be out. And then the updated forecast yesterday: good chance of scattered showers.

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By one this afternoon, the chance of showers turned into a certainty of a seemingly-extended downpour. It rained, and rained, and grew drearier and grayer.

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“This is just like our wedding,” I grumbled to K. We’d had a week of glorious weather until the morning of our August wedding, when it began drizzling, then raining, then drizzling, then spitting.

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“It’ll stop,” K reassured.

“No, it won’t. It will be like this all day,” I replied.

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I tend to be a pessimist in such situations. It’s not that I hope to be right; it’s simply that I try to expect the worst so I can be pleasantly surprised if anything brighter emerges.

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As it turned out, we were both right, both wrong.

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It stopped shortly after all the guests arrived.

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We made a quick plan: cake first, then outdoor games if the rain continues to slack.

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After cake, we rushed out, finished the games, and as the last shot flew toward the goal,

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as the last velcro-covered ball floated to the target, the drizzle returned and wen headed back inside.

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Lunch/dinner was a mix of smoked meats, salads, bread — fairly typical Polish fare. The kids picked, the adults ate.

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Meal completed and ice cream served, we moved to the living room for presents.

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It’s an ironic process for a one-year-old. There’s not much unwrapping he can do. And often the packaging is as entertaining as the toy itself. Yet it’s a birthday: part of the highlight is the unwrapping.

Such was the case today.

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The most thoughtful gift: a broom. J, who keeps E during the week, lives just up the street, and she came with her daughter, mother-and-law, and a broom.

“He just loves our broom, and I thought he’d like to have one his own size.”

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But there was no time to play with the broom — and no room, for he likes to swing and sway with it in a most dangerous way when the room is so crowded. Never mind — there was plenty to distract him.

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New toys. semi-new friends. (How much can a one-year-old remember of another toddler he hasn’t seen in ages?)

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The mess afterward was truly enormous. But that’s the sign of a good party, a good mess.

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The rain, though? It returned in full force shortly after we went inside and continued into the evening. The older children resorted to that old-fashioned play technique: creativity and imagination.

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The rain continued, the children cleaned up the mess, the guests returned home (with Nana and Papa staying longer to help with the clean-up), and K and I set about getting the kids in bed.

Not a bad first birthday party. Perhaps when he looks at these pictures, the Boy will remember something, if only the feeling of excitement.

Mix and Match

A busy day, with mowing, smoking, staking, moving, shaking -- a busy June beginning in preparation for a long-delayed first-birthday party for the Boy. It coincides with Dzien Dziecka, a holiday missing from the American calendar, so we'll be having a laughter-filled party (We have Mother's and Father's Day? Why do we leave the children out?)

But there was no time for pictures today. And so we have the mix-and-match: pictures from yesterday (L's kindergarten awards day) and a few words about today.

Toddler Translation

I often wonder what E thinks he’s saying.

Sometimes, it’s obvious:

  • Why in the world did you just close the fridge?! Didn’t you see me heading straight toward it?
  • Holy cow, that’s frustrating! Can I get a little help here manipulating this [fill in the blank]?
  • No?! But I want to do that!

Sometimes, who knows? Not even he, I suspect.

Neighbors’ Neighbors

Our neighbors, it turns out, still have the same neighbors that foraged in our trash a few years ago and seemed able to get into our compost no matter now cleverly I thought I’d secured it. They were a bit shy at first. Indeed, they were so shy to begin with that I didn’t even realize they were “they.”

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But with enough patience, sitting facing the neighbors’ tree while the boy played,

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they began coming down the tree. At first, I only saw the parent and one baby. It wasn’t until I looked closely at the pictures this evening that I realized how much we have in common: a couple of kids, an old house, and rings around our eyes.

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They shyness continued, with one peaking out for a last glimpse of that strange creature with the odd black appendage that it keeps pointing toward us.

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By then, K and L had returned from the pre-recital ballet pictures and the four of us headed out for a walk, dropping the girl off at her friend’s house up the street.

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Such an odd little neighborhood. Most houses date from the late sixties, giving them either look of a tired maturity or experienced elegance, depending on the time the owners put into the upkeep. But sprinkled in and about them are newer houses, some obviously less than ten or fifteen years old.

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And then there are the mysteries, like the neighbors who obviously spent several thousand dollars cutting down more than ten large trees in their yard while their house has signs of neglect creeping around the doors and windows.

“If I had a few grand to spend on the house,” I laughed, “the last thing I’d spend it on would be the removal of trees.” Of course the large oak with the hollow, rotten core would have been a different story. Still, first on my list of priorities is our tired, tired kitchen, in need of a complete overhaul. A finished laundry room would be a pleasant addition, as would a remodeled guest bath. Cutting down a few trees in the backyard — what’s the point?

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But about this time,  the Boy began reminding us how late it had grown, so we returned to our house with the temporarily fabulous front lawn, the ever-tired kitchen, the unfinished laundry, and the beds.

Day’s First Experience

The prompt for today:

Write down the first sight, sound, smell, and sensation you experienced on waking up today. Pick the one you’re most drawn to, and write. (For a bigger challenge, pick the one you’re least drawn to.)

K put E on my chest this morning, and he woke me up with kisses. Doesn’t get more perfect than that.

Memorable Memorial Day

"Oh, this will be a memorable Memorial Day!" became the common refrain in the house as M, T, and C visited.

L is endlessly excited every time they come -- "When will they get here?! When?!" -- and often overwhelmingly depressed when they leave. They call each other cousins (Why not sisters? I know not.) and have a grand adventure every time they get together.

Their visit this time was short but packed. Sunday evening we hosted a pizza and movie party with Nana and Papa. M was practically tripping over herself with excitement, and the chattering in L's room carried on into the late night. Yet still this morning, they were ready early as couldn't be expected for more fun. For another adventure. L and I introduced them to the various "hiding places" we've found along the drainage "creek" that runs behind our house, but as often happens, E was the real center of attention.

The afternoon, the girls, practically falling on themselves with excitement, talked us into a visit to Nana's and Papa's community's pool.

"The water will be cold." everyone warned. "It's been in the fifties and sixties at night."

Still, a bit of chilly water is nothing compared to the excitement of the first swim of the season. The adults sat out; the girls jumped in. Perhaps that's something of a harbinger of things to come as they grow older and we beside them? A growing reluctance to take risks in direct proportion to their willingness?

After M, T, and C left, we spent some more time outside, letting the Boy lead the way. The discovery of a great stick was the highlight for him; the discovery of virtually-flightless baby birds out of the nest was the worry for us. I managed to deposit one of the chicks in the nest in the turn of our gutter's downspout, but the other hopped merrily away, into the street, its mother squawking nearby, trying to coax baby out of the road. In the meantime, E was heading, full steam, toward the embankment leading to the front ditch. K darted to him just as he'd turned around and prepared himself to sit up -- which would have lasted only as long as it took for him to lose his balance and go tumbling down the embankment. She led him back up the hill to the accompaniment of the mother bird, still fussing at her own baby.

Two moms, doing their jobs.