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Pre-Snow Day 2014

Having grown up in the South, I was amazed and enchanted with all the snow I encountered in southern Poland during my first winter there. "Snow" is a frequent word in my journal during that period. In January 1997, just six months after arriving, I wrote,

It has begun snowing steadily this morning, and the wind is making the snow fall at quite an angle, greater than forty-five degrees at times (or less, if you use the ground as a point of reference). The flakes are very large and wet, and they coat my jacket with white when I walk.

In Bristol snow never stays on the ground for longer than a few days. There might be spots of snow in heavily shaded areas, but not the continual blanket of Lipnica. The temperature is consistently below zero, so old snow remains as a foundation for the occasional flurries. Yet despite the amount of snow on the ground, it really hasn’t snowed that frequently. The bulk of the snow now on the ground is from two heavy snow falls, and it hasn’t done much more than flurry since then.

Heavy snow that stays on the ground for weeks, below-zero days, hoar frost, zero at the bone -- all these things were relatively new experiences for me.

Later in the month, I continued:

It is snowing, and has been since Tuesday night. Something like four to six inches has fallen, and I love it. The wind blows fiercely and the wet flying snow makes me have to look down anytime I go out. It’s a storm by my standards, but probably only an average snow fall in Poland. It will give me something to talk about back home. "You call this a storm?"

Over the years, though, the snow lost its novelty. Snow everywhere for weeks on end soon became as much a hindrance as a blessing. I knew I'd fully lost my fascination with snow when, walking to midnight Mass one Christmas with K and her aunt, I found myself overwhelmingly annoyed with the sound of shoes crunching and squeaking on the ice and snow.

Then K and I moved to the States, ultimately ending up in South Carolina, where snow is as much a rarity as ninety-degree weather in K's Polish hometown. Snow became a blessing again, but it is so rare. And so every winter, we wait in anticipation that we might get just a touch of snow.

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Today in school, after the first two periods, when eighth grade students were heading off to their various third period related arts classes, the teachers spoke in a hush.

"Mr. M said we're going to be releasing at twelve today."

But it was all in anticipation of the storm bearing down on the South. It wasn't the first time I'd experienced an in-expectation snow day: several years ago, when we lived in Asheville, schools closed the day Babcia was supposed to arrive, also in expectation of a mother-of-all storms. That one never materialized, though. So today I was a little skeptical of the whole prognosis as we got the kids through lunch and hustled out to their buses. I arrived at home around two, and nothing.

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Finally the snow started falling, but the flakes were so small that they were difficult to see, and after fifteen minutes, only the lightest of dusting covered the table and chairs on the deck.

"Can we go outside?" L asked, eager to play in the snow and checking the window periodically.

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"Can we have a snowball fight? Can we build a snowman?" L has had so little experience with snow that she can't understand the amount of snow a simple snowball needs. She has no idea the difference between wet snow and dry snow and the impossibility of making snowballs and snowpeople from the latter.

The Boy, having been in Poland last January, has much more experience with snow. The only problem is, he doesn't remember it. So he too was fascinated with the white powder on our back deck.

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L and the Boy returned to their cartoons, and finally the snow became significant, hiding the glass under its less-slight dusting and making significant inroads with the chairs.

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Close, but not enough.

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Finally, the Girl could stand it no longer. "Daddy, I'm going out!" And off she went, searching for snow to eat and a patch large enough to ball into a projectile.

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I got the Boy and headed out shortly after. After marching about the yard for a while, he began scooping swirls of snow, leaves, and dirt in the backyard.

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L on the other hand was working on a collection of snow in the cat's outside bowl.

Once K arrived and we'd stuffed ourselves with chili (what else to eat in such weather?), the four of us handed out for a family walk. The sun had set but the night was still bright with the sparse snow and gray sky reflecting street lights, and the stroller's wheels crunched in the snow: surely everyone who saw us thought us mad. Our stroll took us to the edge of our neighborhood, into a parking lot of a small corporate office. The Boy was convinced it was "babbas," a gigantic manifestation of the bubbles in his bath that have become a highlight of his day. He ran in the snow, occasionally calling "babbas!" The Girl chased him, chased K, chased me, obsessively calling, "You're it!"

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So much joy from just a dusting of snow. Only finding out we could do it all again tomorrow made it better.

Play My Boy To Sleep

Few things are as rewarding as getting one's guitar and playing in a darkened hushed room until one's son is fast asleep.

Fort Pulaski and the Beach

When you're with two full-blooded Poles and two half-blooded Poles and you're near a fort named after a Pole, there's only one thing to do: visit said fort.

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Named for the Polish hero of the American Revolution, Kazimierz Michał Wacław Wiktor Pułaski, the fort named for him represented a turning point in the history of fortifications: it was the first real bombardment of a fort with rifled cannon fire, and compared to the traditional smooth-bore cannon, the new rifled cannon and bullet-shaped shot proved highly effective. The outer wall was breached with cannon fire from positions over a mile away, and the damaged area is still visible due to the different shade of bricks Union soldiers used in repairing the damage.

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And still shells remain lodged in the wall.

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Of course, none of this was of any interest to either the Boy or the Girl. They were happy just to run about the parade ground, climb on cannons, and investigate large mysterious openings in the fortifications.

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We took a walk about the fort, heading out to the Cockspur Island Lighthouse, which has not been in use for over a hundred years -- a little bit of history sitting on an oyster- and mussel-shell bed.

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Along the way, we saw why: with the river dredged for such huge container ships, a small lighthouse would be a joke today, and as the dredging began before the turn of the century, the lighthouses' useful days were certainly finite.

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Still, none of this was of any interest to the kids. What was of interest, and what we regretted putting off until the very end, was the beach. Cold, windy, yet still irresistible.

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Out and About in Savannah

A playground next to a cemetery with Revolutionary War era monuments, the monuments worn illegible by centuries of rain and wind, surrounded by live oaks, the playground itself surrounded by magnolias and littered with Spanish Moss, with church bells ringing in the distance -- it all seems prototypically southern. E and I spent an hour in such a playground this morning while everyone else was in Mass: the Boy just didn't want to cooperate, and the lack of a viable way to isolate his fussing (i.e., a crying room) left me with few alternatives. We walked out of the church and within moments found ourselves at a playground beside Colonial Park Cemetery. E climbed and swinged, jumped and slid, and then we went for a short walk along the oyster-shell paved walk of the cemetery.

An ironically unplanned place for E and me to start our second day in Savannah for a number of reasons, not the least of which was the fact that our first site to see was Bonaventure Cemetery, the largest graveyard in the area and likely one of the largest in the south, famous from its staring role in Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil. The plan was simple: the Boy could sleep, and indeed he drifted off as we drove there, and we would have a chance for a pleasant walk in a lovely cemetery.

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Cemeteries always hold surprises, and Bonaventure didn't disappoint in that regard given the number of Jewish graves with Jewish and even Cyrillic inscriptions. L and I walked about with Babcia, commenting on the typically Jewish surnames we were discovering (Singer, Rosenberg, Goldstein, Cohn) and the tragic-comic nature of so much Jewish literature.

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The sunlight filtering through the Spanish Moss hanging on the countless Live Oaks cast a soft hue on everything and made it a perfect place to sit and perhaps read a book or chat about things of real importance, but we had a schedule and, once he woke, a hungry boy, so after Babcia and K triangulated and positioned themselves (it was imperative that Babcia call and ask her now-famous question, “Gdzie jestescie?”), we headed to the historic district for lunch and a walk.

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The former was a disaster at the over-price, over-rated Shrimp Factory that seemed to have irony on the menu (my jambalaya had microscopic shrimp that were few and far between) and slow service as the soup of the day. The latter was what could be expected in the most charming little city in the South. A riverside walk, wandering through streetside cafes (why didn't we eat in one of them?) with various buskers and plastic sculptures (what an odd combination, but there they were, opposite each other), and ice cream shops open in mid-January all soon put us in better spirits. What's not to love about Savannah, after all? It's the perfect tourist destination: small, wrapped in history, dotted with countless squares — and high real estate with no jobs for anyone, Babcia and K would add. Perhaps that's how the locals keep the average tourist from thinking the inevitable: what if we could move here?

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As the sun cast increasingly longer shadows and the chill returned to the air, we realized we were back near the church where we'd begun our day. K and Babcia took the kids to the playground where E and I started the day and I headed back to the Cathedral of St. John the Baptist, a church that actually looks, sounds, and feels like a church, with mult-level vaulted ceilings, sculptures of saints, stained glass, an enormous organ, and an echo.

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I headed back to the others, played with the kids a bit, and returned to the cemetery, this time with a camera, the sun once again filtering through the Spanish Moss but this time from the opposite direction.

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Yes or No?

E is entering the wide world of language, three languages at a time. He grunts and coos sometimes, but he's started using a few words, both Polish and English. For example, he has a "Yes" grunt and a "No" grunt, but he also says "Yes" and "No." Sort of. When I have difficulty discerning whether his grunt is affirmative, I ask him, "Yes or no?"

"Tak" comes the reply.

Using What You’ve Got

I arrive home and the Boy is in the backyard with Babcia, and he absolutely, positively doesn't want to come in. He's rediscovered the simplest toy, a found toy: a big pile of dirt. Add a couple of sticks, and he's positively in a daze of joy.

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He digs a little hole, moves to a new spot, digs a little hole, moves to a new spot, digs, moves, digs, moves, digs -- a circle that seems endless.

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Soon L stops illustrating the driveway with chalk sketches abstract and traditional and joins us in our digging. Soon, she has an idea: a stick forest.

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E and I head deeper into the wild of the backyard to find more sticks. He tugs at exposed roots, drags sticks until something else attracts his attention, looks up trees until he loses his balance, picks up rocks and tosses them, and together, the three of us spend almost an hour together laughing, exploring, and playing completely toy-free.

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The common regret of modern life: we're so spoiled that we're ruining ourselves. Imagination in kids today sometimes seems to be as illusive as quicksilver, but hopefully not in our children, and today, some evidence.

A stick forest.

Not a bad idea. Progress.

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New Park, New Experiences

After the cold, after the rain, after the dark, it was time yesterday finally to take the whole family out somewhere -- anywhere -- and do something. And so we packed the Girl's bike, the Boy's four-wheeler, some snacks, the camera, and Babcia and headed to a new park near Nana's and Papa's place. The boy has been doing circles in our house with his four-wheeler, but it's a route filled with sharp turns and short straightaways. Yesterday he was able finally to rev his vehicle up to its full potential. At times I found myself trotting beside him thinking, "Perhaps we should put a helmet on him."

We explored, took some pictures, chatted -- just what we needed.

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New Fan

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Over the Christmas break, E has become an official and devoted fan of Thomas and Friends. At least half a dozen times a day, he runs to the TV, pointing and saying "Choo choo! Choo choo!"

Playing Cards

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