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Morning Walk

Sunday 30 March 2014 | 0 Comments

Blue skies in the morning, and there’s only one thing to do: take a walk. It’s been almost two years now since I was taking daily walks with the Boy in the summer mornings. School was just out; the Boy was able to do little more than open his eyes and look straight ahead. On this lazy Sunday morning, with Polish Mass in the afternoon (the last Sunday of the month comes around with surprising suddenness), we have the time for such a trip back through time.

The difference, of course, is in the air, in the trees, in the flowerbeds. The walks two years ago with the Boy were in the summer, when the temperature could rise to the mid-80’s by late morning; today, there’s a cold breeze that reminds us it’s still March.

During the summer walks of two years ago, the shade of trees brought relief; today, the trees are still almost completely bare, and shade only makes us feel the chill more acutely.

Then, the flowerbeds were not nearly as colorful as the beds today.

Then was a beginning, with E just a little bump in the stroller; today is a beginning, with the buds opening and the Boy kicking his feet on the wheels of the stroller and doing his best to chat with me about everything he sees.

“You really want to talk, don’t you?” I ask as we turn to head home.

“Taaaak!”

Morning, Evening

Saturday 29 March 2014 | 0 Comments

Sun comes up, it's Saturday morning, and the gray sky suggests that we won't be doing much more than sitting at home -- as if gray skies mean such a thing. Just because we're rained in doesn't mean that we can't find work to do. Two kids, a house, one parent a teacher -- there's always something to do, something to fix, something to begin, something to complete.

I make the coffee and think of a song, an album I hadn't listened to in ages. Cowboy Junkies. Somehow the perfect group for this morning. Calm, somewhat monotonous, almost boring in the perfect way something could be boring.

The kids and I get ready to go out shopping -- a quick trip that serves two purposes. We get the things we need, like sundried tomatoes for the coming week's salads, and we leave K alone in the house to clean.

"I like it. It's calming, almost a meditation."

Must be a Polish thing.

We arrive home, entertain the kids, force some Polish down L's gullet -- those Polish lessons are getting harder and harder, K swears -- and eat some lunch, and then the sun comes out. Followed by me. I have ten cubic yards of dirt to compact at the end of the driveway to prepare our latest blueberry patch. And a yard to mow. And a million other things that I can't quite get to. The Girl goes to a friend's house to play, then brings him back to play some more. K brings the fed and napped Boy outside while she cleans the van we'll soon be selling -- hopefully -- and suddenly it's evening. I stand at the grill, turn the chicken, turn the corn, and watch the sun on buds in the tree tops turn golden as Nana and Papa entertain the kids and vice versa.

Eight fifteen. "What do you say I go upstairs and draw the bath?" I whisper in K's ear as she finishes up dinner dishes.

"Sounds good."

And tonight, all dive in.

All. Including our brave, curious, playful kitten.

Much to everyone's delight.

Soon enough, kids are out, and I'm making the Boy's bottle, then playing guitar for him as he drifts off to sleep. I sit on the bed, then lie on the bed, suddenly to be awakened.

"Who fell asleep first?" K laughs.

Hard to tell.

"Movie?"

"Are you kidding?"

Not really, but I know that there's not much point even starting it. She'll fall asleep within the first half hour, and by then, I might be interested enough not to want to stop.

"You're probably right," I say.

"Coming to bed?"

"No, I've got one more thing to do."

Soup, Boy, Man

Thursday 27 March 2014 | 0 Comments

We do love K’s żurek.

Tears to Mama’s Eyes

Tuesday 25 March 2014 | 3 Comments

By the doors to the restrooms in E's daycare room there is a small chair, blue with yellow legs and arms. With its slightly reclined back and arched seat, it looks almost like an Adirondack chair. It would seem likely the teachers put the chair there to provide children waiting for the restroom a place to sit until one realizes that the name of the group is "Toddler 2," which means every child in the room is around two years old: not many children that age likely are using the restroom by themselves. Perhaps it's a timeout chair.

The Boy, however, made his own unique use of it last week, his first week in daycare. Because we wanted to slip him into the new routine gently, K took him to the facility in the morning then came during her lunch break to take E back to the house and Babcia, where he napped, lunched, and played until I returned. K's arrival always coincided with the preparation time for the children's nap. As the children pulled their mats into place and arranged their blankets, all with the teachers' help, E sat in the yellow and blue chair and waited for K.

This week, however, he's been going full days. Two days down, and things could be going better. What a stressful experience for a little kid, and K and I both feel a little guilty for putting him through it. We justify it to ourselves: he'll be stronger for it; he has to go through this at some point; he'll soon be enjoying it. We justify, but that doesn't do much when the teacher tells us that every day at nap time, E still trundles over to the yellow and blue chair, sits down, and waits for K.

Random Monday Thoughts

Monday 24 March 2014 | 0 Comments

He toddled to the wood pile, on which rests the small box of sidewalk chalk, and tried to climb.

"Do you want chalk?" I asked.

"Taaaaaaaaaak!" he affirmed.

He took the chalk, bounced over to his ride-able toy firetruck, which has a small storage compartment, opened said compartment, and dropped the chalk in. He pushed it out of the carport then up half of the driveway, where he stopped and emptied his cargo onto the pavement. Taking the fat cylinder of chalk in his hand, he scratched enthusiastically at the pavement, just as L had done so many years ago.

Having multiple children is a constant reminder of the cyclical nature of almost all we do. E is now fascinated with chalk for drawing on the driveway -- large, fat chalk that leaves pink and red and blue marks on the black pavement.

"Koło!" he cried as he made yet another circle.

Paris Mountain

Sunday 23 March 2014 | 1 Comment

“Tata, when are we going to have another Tata-L day?” the Girl occasionally asks. It's our nickname for a little bit of time together, just the two of us. It might be a bit of bike riding together, or it might just be a few errands with a milkshake treat to finish up the outing. Until recently, though, the Boy has really been too small for a Tata-E day.

Today was just such a day

The girls were on their way to the airport for Babcia's return flight, with a planned stop at Ikea to begin planning a room renovation for the Girl's bedroom. It was the perfect opportunity for a bit of little-man-alone-with-Tata time: walking, climbing, falling, looking, exploring.

Over the bridge -- again, and again, and again.

Walking carefully so as not to fall through

Afternoon Play

Saturday 22 March 2014 | 0 Comments

Warmth in March

Thursday 20 March 2014 | 0 Comments

When it's this warm, after days of rain, after days of winter's last stand, a warm and sunny day demands us, commands us, compels us outside. The yellow bells have been blooming for a week, and the green underneath will soon overwhelm the yellow much like the heat of the coming summer will overwhelm the beauty of merely warm days like today.

The warmth of summer isn't the only thing we catch a glimpse of today, though. The Boy glances at me when I call his name, and as I've managed to do several times with the Girl, I catch an instant in which we can see hints of what he'll look like as he grows older.

It's inevitable, of course, but sometimes, like all parents, we just want to keep him at this perfect little age. And keep L at her perfect little age. That's one of the oddities of being a parent: when you're that close to the growth, seeing it constantly, it's easy to forget that a given child hasn't always been this age, hasn't always been just this charming in this particular way.

Hasn't he always been eager to "help"? Hasn't he always been madly repeating every single phrase he hears, with his bubbling, often-near-miss pronunciation? Won't he always love to swing?

Nightly Rituals

Monday 17 March 2014 | 0 Comments

We have many, but two stood out tonight. First, the search for Elsa, our kitten. She’s still incredibly small, and she can fit into the must unimaginably tight spots. Under the sofa is a favorite place, even though there’s probably not much more than three inches of clearance there. A recent favorite was behind the baskets in which K stores our scarves and gloves in the winter, our hats and such in summer. Tonight, a new spot: my sock basket at the bottom of our bedroom closet.

The other ritual is reading. The Boy has his favorite books, and now that the Girl has progressed so in reading — still waiting that spring MAP score! — she often reads to him. His attention span is still not much longer than his nose, though, and tonight, the dust cover of the book was far more interesting.

As the Girl grows, she takes on more responsibility with her brother, as tonight shows. Best of all, she often relishes these responsibilities — for a short time. Still, it’s a start toward mature responsibility.