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"It's supposed to start around seven this evening," I explained. "That's what all the meteorological reports suggest." The slight bit of icy snow that frosted the ground yesterday was not enough to do much of anything, one would think, but when you're on the South, any amount of "snow" is significant for children. So the suggestion that we might have even more snow was the stuff of sweet dreams as the kids plodded off to bed. "Is it snow?" was the mantra of the evening, but they went to sleep with complete confidence with the weather reports, knowing that they were only off by the time.

From the moment they woke up, the kids were at the window, ready to go out, ready to play in the snow. "There's so much snow!" E chirped again and again. It's only the second or third time the Boy has seen snow, so any snow at all is significant. When Dziadek was sick a few years ago, K to the Boy with her for a visit in the middle of January, and so E saw real snow, deep snow, snow that covers everything and utterly transforms the whole landscape, but of course he doesn't remember it.

When we finally made it outside, we had a dilemma: the young man who was sledding with us yesterday had come in the morning and taken his sleds with us. What to do? "I guess we sled like I did when I was a kid," K said. And so we took an old sleeping bag -- though, properly speaking, it should have been straw -- and used it to stuff a garbage bag. K also thought we might try E's old inner-tube we used at the pool. "It's not like we use it anymore." As the finishing touch, our neighbors invited us to use their yard -- slightly smoother and with fewer trees.

When the kids came in, they were soaked. And that's as it should be.

Snow Day 2016

We don't get much snow here in the South. Even an inch is enough to disrupt everything. We do get a lot more ice, I think. Even then, the slightest little bit makes the news. This morning, for example, a news caster commented on the fact that there were icicles on the trees, "And they don't fall off when I shake the branch." No joke.

Still, when we get a little snow, or even a little ice that is masquerading as snow, we make the most of it.

Final Sunday of the Break

Just as predicted, we blinked twice and it was Christmas Eve; another two blinks and it was New Year's Eve. And now, it's all over again. Another Christmas break is little more than memory. But that's not a bad thing: Most of our lives are memory. The present is just a passing phase that disappears as soon as you acknowledge its existence. The future is relatively uncertain. So it's our memories that make up the majority of our life.

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Slightly more serious

Today was glorious, but we were all tired, so we stayed home. It was a lazy day from the beginning: the alarm went off at seven, and it took only a moment for K and me to decide that the eleven o'clock Mass was a better option than the nine o'clock Mass.

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Slightly less

We were thinking about going for some afternoon outing, perhaps hiking somewhere, but soon after Mass, as we were heading to the car, I think I'd decided that even going to a nearby park might be too ambitious.

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So in the end, we spent the day at home. There was an abundance of trampoline time, including the fun game of Charge Yourself with Ample Static Electricity by Shuffling Around the Trampoline with Your Socks On Then Discharge It All Onto Daddy's Bald Head. A fun game, that.

Day Two, at the Park

The days before Christmas Eve are all about preparation. There's so much to clean, so much to cook, so much to get ready just to cook or to clean. There's an art in knowing when to help and knowing when helping is simply getting out of the way.

Today, K made the pierogies for Christmas Eve, and while she was at it, she used up the rest of the chicken from Wednesday's rosół (L's favorite, made especially for her birthday) to make some chicken pierogi. All in all, she made well over a hundred of the little dumplings, which means that flour was flying all over the place.

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Were the kids there, cries of "Can I help?" and "Why can I help?" and "L could help -- I want to help!" and "Can I have some dough?" and a thousand other things would be a constant added challenge to gauging the amount of filling versus dough to make it all come out, the challenge of making cutting-board full of dumplings quickly enough that the first ones don't dry out before the whole board gets slipped into the freezer. Not to mention one's sanity.

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So after lunch, I packed the kids and their bikes into the car and headed to the nearest park. Southside is not nearly as crowded on it's busiest Sunday as Cleveland Park is on an average Sunday, and when we arrived today, we had the park almost all to ourselves.

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Almost as soon as we arrived, a young man with a yellow safety vest and an unsteady stride approached us. "Hi," he smiled awkwardly, then pointing to his bandaged wrist, asked, "What's this?" I looked at his vest, which has his name printed on it and a telephone number, and it was quickly clear that the young man had Down's Syndrome. I looked at his wrist and replied, "It looks like you hurt yourself. Are you okay?"

"Yeah, I'm fine. What's this?"

I explained again, glancing around to see where his parents might be, glancing at L and E to see where they were.

"What's this?" came the voice again.

E was approaching me at that point, calling out his usual mantra -- "Daddy, come play with me!" -- so I simply repeated my explanation and excused myself. The Boy and I headed to the biggest slide on the playground, and glancing back at the yellow-clad boy, I saw him head to another father on the playground. Pointing to his wrist, he was clearly asking the same question of almost everyone, and it was still unclear where his parents might be.

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"Who was that, Daddy?" L asked as she ran up beside us as we headed to the bigger playground with it's enormous slides.

"I don't know, sweetie."

"Then why were you talking to him?"

"He was talking to me," I replied, knowing where the conversation was heading.

"Why?"

I explained, and L, having recently become aware of the autistic students in her own school, asked if he had "bad autism" or just "a little."

"He isn't autistic, honey. He's mentally disabled. He has something called Downs Syndrome."

"What's that?"

I explained it quickly, and since we were then at the bigger playground, she found that explanation adequate and ran off to mount the ladder to the slide.

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Still no sign of the lad's parents, but by then, my attention had shifted to the Boy's climbing. Lately, he's grown more confident and more willing to take risks, which means he was climbing on things like the chain ladders that just a few months ago were unthinkable challenges for him.

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I stood at the base of the slide, waiting for him. As he climbed up the ladder, my view was briefly obstructed, and the normal parental thoughts paraded: What if he falls? Should I be by him to help?

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I stayed where I was. He didn't fall. I learned the same lesson for the millionth time: I have to let go. I have to step back. I have to let him fall.

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And later, when they were riding their bikes in the empty over-flow parking lot and the Boy fell, I walked calmly over to him, calling, "Oh buddy, it's nothing. Get up -- brush it off. You're fine."

I never figured out who the yellow-clad young man's parents were. He talked to almost everyone in the playground and wandered freely. In fact, I wondered whether or not they were even at the park. Maybe they dropped him off and went somewhere for a while. Shopping? Who knows. Yet I'm not willing to make any kind of judgment about their parenting choices. They're probably just letting him climb alone for a while.

(Final pierogi count: 148.)

Trying out Presents

We have Candyland and Monopoly, Shoots and Ladders (or is it “Shoots ‘n’ Ladders”?) and checkers, Uno and Jenga, as well as a handful of others, but the one classic kids game we did not have Twister. So when one mother said to us as an aside, “We didn’t know what to buy her so we just got a game,” I was hopeful.

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Tonight, we tried it out. And quickly discovered that the Boy isn’t quite big enough to make some of the connections.

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Sunday Pictures

Magic Toys

Once upon a time there was a magic room. It was not magic. The toys in the room were. So that made the room magic. A little girl named Sue who was about seven years old owned the room. Sue didn’t know that her toys were magic, but she did notice strange things sometimes.

So one day she decided to put up a video camera in her room. The toys did not know that the video camera set up. So when they started to talk and move Sue’s camera caught it all.

When Sue developed her film she couldn’t believe her eyes. When Sue showed her parents, her parents couldn’t believe there eyes ether.

So Sue got rid of those toys and got new ones. Her next toys were not magic, but from there on she was very careful when she bought her toys.

THE END

The moral of this story is that be careful of what you buy (especially toys)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Autumn Leaves

We always have leaves in the trampoline when we head down to do some jumping. Even in the summer, there’s a smattering of leaves that we have always swept away before we begin jumping. There are always just enough to be a bother. The sweeping process, in fact, has been quite beneficial: it’s motivated L to learn how to be a more efficient sweeper.

Today, when we made it down to the trampoline, it occurred to us that, with so very many leaves on the jumping surface, it might be fun just to leave them.

We were right.

Too Many Toys

Every night whoever has Boy Duty (as opposed to Girl Duty) reads to the Boy, and my selection tonight was Too Many Toys by David Shannon of No, David! fame (one of the best children’s books of all time). The story was a little predictable: “Spencer had too many toys,” it begins, and the astute child or the typical adult will guess where this is going.

Tonight, we reached the page that showed all of Spencer’s toys spilling down the stairs. “Spencer liked to make his toys into a parade that stretched from one corner of the house to the other and back again!” E pointed to the huge line of toys and said, “He poured them all out.”

“Yes,” I laughed. “I know someone else who likes to pour his toys out.”

E looked at me thoughtfully for a moment, then concluded, “Babcia doesn’t.”

Indeed. Every time we visit Babcia, she complains, only partially in jest I’m convinced, that she’ll be glad when we’re all gone and she can get back to normal. “No more toys here, there, and everywhere!”

No, Babcia would not be a fan of Spencer’s train of toys.

After a thoughtful second, E continued: “I do too.” Up went his eyebrows as they always do when he’s about to raise an index finger to emphasize a point. “But I clean up.” Another small pause. “Sometimes.”

Jumping Redux