christmas
Out of the Silence
After more or less two years or so of daily-posting (nearly daily -- fell off these last few months, but the 20+ before that make up for the slack), it was time for a beak. A week without is not the same as a week without writing: I've returned to my journal, finding the privacy freeing. I can harp about kids in my class by name; I can write put details about our home adventures that would never make it here. But of course that doesn't mean that the pictures haven't accumulated, that the list of things to include in our online scrapbook hasn't been filling up mental list after mental list.
Without the daily writing after examining the pictures snapped through the afternoon, though the evening, the lists add up to nothing: I can't remember the thoughts this situation prompted, the connections with this or that.
Writing daily for something available to more eyes than my own turns every instant into a potential paragraph, and I think I'd just had enough of that for a while.
And so last Sunday when we went to Nana's and Papa's to help decorate their tree, it was relaxing just to be, not to think about what I might write about this or that.
I was still a shutterfly, though. When I asked L if she'd like to have our older DSLR when she geets a little bigger, she replied tellingly: "No, Daddy, I'm not going to be a shutter bug like you."
On the one hand, I see that as highly likely. She's too hyper, too busy, too up to take the time to take photo after photo.
But on the other hand, she is terribly creative, always excited about what's she's doing in art class or looking to create something new at home. Perhaps the idea of making photo collages might -- well, we'll see.
The rest of the week went by in a fairly typical fashion: hectic mornings, long days at school that drag because we're all --Â all -- looking to the coming Christmas break with such longing that it's difficult for anyone to focus, evenings that slip by before we know it.
But with K home now, the overall pace of life seems to have slowed just enough for everyone to catch their breaths before the chaos of the holiday season turns it all upside down again.
December is just a rush, no matter who's where. With a birthday, Christmas concerts, a major holiday, the near-end of a semester, parties, and surprise drop-ins from Santa, it's just a never-ending sprint from the first to the twenty-fifth.
But as in most families, it's become something like a yardstick to measure the growth of the year. The Boy, for example, has begun looking beneath the surface of things, to question what he sees. When Mr. F and Mrs. P come over as they do every year dressed as the Clauses, there's no fooling the Boy. He recognizes the voice, the face, and declares, "That's Mr. F!"
But it's not all surprises and new adventures. Every weekday night still winds down similarly, with someone up in the Boy's room as he plays with this or that, playing with him, doing one's own thing, shifting between the two.
One's on thing: read, "Take pictures."
Soon the Boy will start complaining about the shutterflies in the house, but for now, he's able mostly to ignore it if it has nothing to do with what he's playing at the moment.
Yet with it Advent, there are a few differences during the week. Ladders come out, lights go up,
carols play on repeat.
Forwarding Address
We're a 3/4 Polish family, and so we have to be a little difficult and do things differently. Like celebrate Saint Nicholas's day, which is on the sixth of December. Which means our kids get two Christmases. Which means the Girl, with her mid-month birthday, get three gift days. Which makes the other kids at school jealous. Hence the difficulty.
L has become more of a critical thinker regarding the whole process, though. She no longer blindly accepts the seeming omnipotence and omniscience of Santa. Clearly, there are things he might not know. Like the fact that she has changed rooms since last year. Or that her bed is different now, more narrow, with less room for presents. (Mikołaj doesn't have a Christmas tree yet to put presents under, so I guess he improvises.)
"I'm sure he can figure it out," K explained last night, calming L's worries. But later in the night, I suggested that we that perhaps we ought to put L's gift in the Boy's room, just to see if she figured out what happened. It was when K and I were downstairs, K wrapping newly-arrived presents and I cleaning up what will certainly be the only artifact of humanity a hundred thousand years from now -- dried Play-doh. And doing something likely less useful. Like thinking of further Christmas jokes to play on our children.
My Wish Lists
Santa list
- microscope
- deluxe pottery wheel
- boogie board
- LCD Writing Tablet color: blue
Polish santa list
- lego friend
- two small macks
Birthday list
- lego friends,
- fantastic spinner,
- pokemon cards
St. Stephen’s Day 2013
Turkey, sweet potato pie, gelatin salad, games, more gifts.
It must be St. Stephen's Day.
Christmas 2013
When I was a kid, my family used to drive from southwest Virginia to Nashville almost every year for Thanksgiving. In the mid-eighties, when the speed limit everywhere was 55, it took just over six hours.
Six hours in the car for a ten-year-old was utter living Hades: it was never-ending boredom in the days before smart phones, portable DVD players, and iPods.
The trip there was bearable, for there was something to look forward to. The trip back was hellish because all the excitement had passed.
Six hours in a car -- a long, long, long time.
Six hours with family and good friends on Christmas day, though, passes in a flash.
God Rest Ye Gentlemen
Wigilia 2013
"You girls got to play all day yesterday; today, you'll be helping out a lot." Thus began the day, and thus the girls began their day of helping, much of which was more spiritual than physical. Still, transferring the clean dishes from the dishwasher and moving the dirty breakfast dishes from the table to the dishwasher was a good start
And so for a change, every year's is not the same, at least at the start. The girls all chip in throughout the morning, taking care of the Boy as he horses about,
or cutting veggies for the Christmas morning breakfast. (How odd I used to find it that a Polish breakfast might include a salad of some sort or other; how odd I now find it that I used to find it odd.)
It's always amusing to me how a little Tom Sawyering can turn anything into a game for kids this age. At one point, one of the girls suggested they go up L's room to play. "No," the other two replied, "we want to help."
As the day turned to afternoon, though, the Girls' help became more spiritual, less physical. T took out her holiday music and began playing for the Girls as they sang carols.
They began with "Angels We Have Heard on High,"
and followed it with "Go Tell It on the Mountain," to which E added some avant garde accompaniment.
As we continued cutting, chopping, boiling, spicing, setting the table,
and whining, the girls performed "Silent Night,"
and moved quickly to a very interesting arrangement of "Jingle Bells."
Of course the girls wouldn't be The Girls if they didn't add something silly to the mix. T sat this one out, but C and L had great fun recording their version of "We Wish You a Merry Christmas."
By this time, though, it was time to stop with the silliness and get started on the main courses for the evening. I went out to fire up the grill and the Girls all transformed. The Boy waited though. "He's still wiping his nose on his sleeve," K explained. "We'll wait with him." And so picture-perfect girls bounded about the house while I grilled salmon, fried an improvised invention (oyster and crab cakes, which I think I'll try again), and Babcia looked on with a smile.
Once Nana and Papa arrived, the rest of the evening went by in a blur. We began as always: Papa read from the Gospel of St. Luke, chapter 2.
I scooted about, taking pictures, directing L to stop messing with E and listen to Papa, and generally worrying that the crab/oyster cakes might not be as tasty as I imagined.
The dinner itself went by in a blur, which is always the case, and I always find it somewhat tragic. So much time spent preparing barszcz z uszkami, crab/oyster cakes, mushroom soup (where did those mushrooms come from? surely not Poland!), cabbage and mushroom pierogis, salmon, potatoes, and salad, cheese cake, Polish sweets, and a million other delicacies and it's gone in about an hour. We try to slow down; we all comment on the tragedy of it all; and every single year, we all inhale it. This year was no different, which is both a complement to the chefs and a sad illustration of how quickly we all tend eat.
For the kids, though, it was normal: there was only one thing on their minds. The presents.
So we moved to the living room, listened to more caroling,
and eventually began opening presents.
We tried out some of the gifts
and lamented and celebrated that such an evening occurs only once a year.