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Thursday Afternoon

How do you lose the gas cap off your mower? Fairly easily it turns out, as I discovered Saturday. So when we were talking about what we'll be doing this weekend over dinner, K suggested I work on the leaves in the backyard again. Great idea, but I'll have to get a gas cap before I can do that. In the meantime, to get a little exercise and outside time after dinner, we searched for the gas cap.

For a while.

Soon enough, though, the boys decided it was time to play. We captured K and tried to pull her to our lair, but she's a strong one, that K. But turnabout is only fair, and so the Boy turned traitor and jailed me in the hammock, taking a brief break to get the Girl swinging.

Treasures

Columbia Zoo

Gift to Sing

An audio recording from rehearsal.

Columbia

The Girl has loved performing for years. She doesn't often have an audience, but she really doesn't need one.

Rehearsal on Friday

On a weekend trip, she can entertain herself in the hotel room dancing about as if she were on the biggest stage in the world.

The performers

She can dance a little reel on the way from the table to retrieve a spoon for little brother's soup as if she were part of a touring dance troupe.

The Boy
The Boy takes a picture

A hairbrush can be a microphone and the hardwood floors throughout our house make every space a recital hall.

Standing ovation

This weekend, though, it was a little different. It wasn't the improvised routines that fill her week with little joys as she imagines herself on this or that stage. It wasn't plunking away with her piano teacher. It was an auditioned role. A practiced and prepared role. And it wasn't just her: it was almost three hundred kids across the state, all practicing with their music teacher after school, learning the same songs in big city schools and small rural schools. Students of multiple ethnicities, races, religions, and mental aptitudes with one thing in common: an ability to sing. A gift in common. A gift they are willing to share.

And in the midst of all this, like magnets to a pole, two Polish families found each other and the girls made friends instantly.

Resisting

Part of parenting is resisting. Resisting the urge to give in to tantrums because, let's face it, it would be easier in the short run. Resisting the urge to say something sarcastic when it's really not going to do anything but make the situation worse. Resisting the urge to change your kid's personality because some little quirk here or there is mildly annoying. Resisting the urge to compare your kids to others' children. Resisting the urge to use one sibling as a model for the other: "Why can't you be more like your brother?" Resisting the urge to let television be the babysitter when you're tired. Resisting the urge to say "No" when "Yes" won't hurt anything other than your schedule. Resisting the urge to say "Yes" when it's so much easier. Resisting the urge disengage when tired. Resisting the urge to stop resisting the urges...

Practicing with the small suitcase we'll be using this weekend, which he will use as his carry-on going to Poland this summer.

And part of parenting is embracing urges.

Problem Solving

This Week

Late-January Monday

It's been a long time since we've had a fairly typical Monday. Last Monday, we had no school, so K and I went out and bought a new car. The Monday before that, we were out of school because of snow. Or was that the previous Monday? Going back further there was winter break and so on. So today was a normal Monday. Up early, kids ready, off we go.

The afternoon was fairly typical as well. After chess club, I arrived home late. Everyone was in the backyard. I made my afternoon coffee, poured it in a travel mug, and headed out -- only to see everyone coming in.

"I'm coming in to get dinner ready," K said. The temptation was to be lazy, but laziness is what we got all weekend, with the rain, rain, and more rain.

"I'll go down with them," I suggested, and both the kids squealed and excitedly ran back down to the trampoline/swing/hammock/bridge/hiding spot area we've been developing over the last few years.

New tricks
Staring mysteriously
Meditation
"The swing is broken!"
Hiding spot

Afterward we had dinner. Relatively uneventful -- which is really saying something. The kids lately have been bickering like mad over the slightest thing, and it turns dinner into something less than perfectly enjoyable. We decided to conduct an experiment -- the "we" being K and I, for the kids would never agree to it. Not knowing what influence was primarily responsible for their behavior (for it's not been just the bickering), we've eliminated all possible influences for a week: no television, no computer, no friends. Just a week to refocus and recharge. The kids this weekend had to find other ways to entertain themselves when we weren't playing with them. L read, played with her Legos, drew. The Boy drew, played with his Legos, looked at books. The results are beginning to show: tonight, a much calmer dinner, with no hysterics about anything. In the evening, a calmness that hasn't been in our house for a while.

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