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Santa

While waiting for breakfast -- a delicious quiche that a lovely student gave me as a Christmas gift -- the Boy asked a simple question: "Daddy, does Santa even exist?" The question took me unawares.

"Well, if he doesn't, how do you think you get those presents?" I asked in response after a pause.

"You guys do it!" he shouted with a grin.

I've always been a little reluctant about the whole Santa thing. On the one hand, it's harmless fun. On the other, it does necessitate misleading your child. I decided that this was the opportunity for which I'd been waiting to encourage critical thinking.

"Well, how could we figure it out? What kind of an experiment could we run to see?" I remembered Neil DeGrasse Tyson explaining the experiment his daughter ran with her friend to test the existence of the Tooth Fairy: they decided they simply would keep secret any lost teeth and see if the TF showed up. She didn't. Simple.

E couldn't think of anything, but we went through the logic behind the Santa story -- or rather, the lack thereof. Using a Socratic-type questioning method, reached the following conclusions:

  • The North Pole is real, but that doesn't prove much.
  • People in Brazil don't have chimneys, but they still get presents.
  • The size of the average chimney makes it all but impossible for a human to slide down it with a sack of toys.
  • The dirt in the chimney (I didn't get into soot) might make the toys dirty, but the fact that they're in a sack might keep them clean.
  • The dirt in the chimney would definitely pose a problem when it came to leaving without a trace -- there would be dirty footprints everywhere.
  • It doesn't seem possible to visit all homes in the world in a single night.
  • The size of the sack needed to carry all the toys is unrealistic.
  • Reindeer can't fly.

When L joined us at the table, the Boy relayed the whole conversation to her, and she began apologetics for Santa.

I'm still not sure where the Girl stands on Santa. Surely she doesn't believe anymore, but we've never had a conversation about it. And it's just like the Girl to play devil's advocate in such a situation.

In the end, the Boy stood more skeptical on the issue, and we decided that, even if Santa doesn't exist, it's fun to pretend he does. Perhaps that's the best stance.

Preparing for Christmas

Opłatek

As a teacher, I often don’t always say the things I want to say. Most would interpret that negatively: “He doesn’t call kids jerks when he thinks they are.” That’s certainly the case, but for not so obvious reasons. Most obvious is the lack of professionalism such a pronouncement would exhibit, not to mention cruelty. More to the point, though, I don’t really experience that because I rarely — not never, but very, very rarely — hold such an opinion of a kid. They are, after all, kids. They’re still learning, still growing, and their impulse control and social skills are often simply not up to par because of a lack of maturity or a lack of consistent examples. I could count on one hand all the kids, over twenty years of teaching, that I just didn’t like as people. I haven’t met such a kid in several years now.

What I had in mind is the flip side of that — as a teacher, I don’t always tell a kid when I’m absolutely in love with some part of his journey, some portion of her personality, some facet of his persistence, some element of her youthful excitement.

I certainly tell a lot of kids a lot of positive things. But those moments seem relatively few and far between.

Why don’t I say those things? Probably because of a sense of vulnerability that seems to include for myself. Possibly because of a worry of how it might be taken. Perhaps because of a lack of time.

“Wouldn’t it be nice to have some sort of occasion, some sort of event, that seemed actually to encourage such things?” I thought. And thinking back to my seven years of teaching in Poland, I realized such an occasion exists, just not in American culture.

In Poland, though, a tradition that invites such honesty has existed for centuries: sharing the opłatek.

I’ve done it for several years now, explaining it to the kids with a slide show and a bit of explanation about Christmas in Poland and substituting pizzelle from Aldi for the actual wafer.

This year, instead of just taking pictures, I participated. I always had a pizzelle in hand, but I waited for students to come to me; this year, I went to them. And told the shy kids who were coming out of their shell how exciting it was to watch them, to hear them assert themselves, to see the faces of other students as they share their often-striking ideas. I told the troubled students how much growth I’d already seen, how much I was rooting for them, how much it irritated me when I had to ask them to leave the classroom because their disruptive decisions were robbing others of opportunities. I told the kids who had started doing their work after a quarter, perhaps a quarter and a half of apathy, how proud I was of them.

And in return today, I got the loveliest Christmas card I have ever received from a student, thanking me for my words, thanking me for my encouragement and motivation, and assuring me that she was my favorite student.

Perhaps, but she’s tied with 120 others this year.

Views from Polish Roads

The Most Famous Street in Krakow

Playing with Lightroom again...

Nana Hospital Intake Two

  • In the centel 
  • Hitting heading then spelled it hitting
  • 408 mauldin road
  • 408 indistinct 
  • Why dont you go to bed
  • am I going to get in this bed any time soon
  • Twit it not twist it
  • Every three fowers
  • Who is president? Bush  for a big trump fan this is surprising. 
  • The rattling 
  • What time is it? 7 okay I don't want mama to be upset
  • Looking for letter in folds of blanket

    Bubbles at Gubałówka

    Slow Eaters Club

    We should probably all be members of this club...

    Twelve

    We're on the brink. I know, I know -- we've already into the teen years in a lot of ways. She has teen interests (some, not all), a nearly-teen body, a teen attitude at times. She has no more toys in her room. The birthday presents she wants to buy when she goes to parties come from Bed and Body Works and similar shops. She has a whole slew of favorite music, which I find myself thinking about in a way that my parents probably thought about my music. But her age is still not appended with "teen."

    For one more year.

    Today we had the annual pre-Christmas Polish gathering, which always includes a nativity play (jasełka) put on by the children of the Polish community. The Girl has been participating in this since she was four, making this the eighth year she's done it.

    Many of the children who used to participate are no longer children. They were young teens when they first did it, and now they're in college, one in med school. They gather together during these performances and sit at a table, one of the islands of English in a largely Polish crowd. The other island -- the young children who are today's stars.

    So to watch L perform on her birthday when sitting nearby are yesterday's children who are now young adults is a jarring experience in some ways. "They grow up so quickly," we all say, but we never really see it because their changes occur daily, and that daily exposure blurs the changes. But every now and then...

    When I first arrived, I saw a young lady walking out of a door that I didn't recognize immediately. Tall, graceful, with tastefully done makeup and a flawless face -- it took me half a second to realize that it was my own daughter.

    To see one's own daughter, for the briefest of moments, as a stranger is to be, for the briefest of moments, a time traveler: I would not have immediately recognized twelve-year-old L were she to walk through the door eight years ago; were thirty-year-old L to walk through the door now, I might not realize it for a moment.

    That is what we mean when we say "They grow up so fast." They cease being the little girls and boys we're comfortable with before we're ready for it, before we even realize it's happened.

    Previous Years' Birthday Posts

    2009: Three
    2011: Big Sister's Birthday
    2012: Six and Jasielka
    2013: Birthday Party
    2014: 8
    2015: Nine
    2016: Ten
    2017: Eleven

    12th Party

    View from Ząb Cemetery

    Shopping at Gubałówka

    Playing with The Boy

    The Boy got several new toy trucks today, adding to his already-extensive collection of toy cars, trucks, bulldozers, tractors, and the like.

    Only one thing to do after dinner...

    First Clues

    The Boy found an old SIM card the other day and was convinced it was some sort of memory device. I, of course, played along thinking it might be a good way to transition into an actual treasure hunt.

    Last night, K told E it wasn't a memory card. "It's from T-Mobile," she explained. I'd explained that the "T" was for technology, perhaps.

    "Why'd you tell him?"

    "One day, he might take it to school and tell everyone it's a memory card and someone will laugh and him and say, 'It's just something from T-Mobile.'"

    Still, I persisted. Today, I shared with him the message that was buried in the memory card.

    The Game Master breaks his silence.

    I had in mind hiding something in his copy of Green Eggs and Ham with the final half of the clue, an allusion to the ending in which Sam-I-Am promises to leave the protagonist alone if he'll just try the green eggs and ham.

    I hoped the clue I had the Girl plant while we were walking in the park would help solidify the connection: "Agent Rex, are you Sam?"

    When we first arrived, E was terribly eager to look for clues; he looked in the unlikeliest of places, convinced that the Game Master would hide clues only in hard-to-find locations. I looked down at his shoes, though, and realized it woudn't be the adventure I'd initially planned.

    "Why did you put sandals on?"

    "Because I couldn't find my shoes."

    So I was constantly telling him to stay away from the remnants of snow, carrying him over spots where a puddle covered the entire path, and asking him, "Are your toes cold?"

    When he finally reached the tree to which L had pinned the clue, he completely missed it because it just above his eye level.

    When he finally found it and read it, he was perplexed. I knew I'd have to guide him toward Green Eggs and Ham, and I thought he could figure it out if we steered him that way deliberately.

    We didn't succeed.

    And then K came home and the Boy explained everything to her.

    "Oh, like Sam-I-Am."

    I'd considered texting her the details so she could respond just like that, but it was apparently not necessary.

    Soon enough, the Boy was in possession of his third clue of the day:

    Agent Rex, your mother doesn't have an agent name. I can't communicate with you until she has a name. When she does, send me a message in a manner I will explain at a later date. Until then, be brave, Agent Rex!

    By now, though, the novelty of it was wearing off.

    "This isn't a treasure hunt," he lamented. "It's a clue hunt."

    True enough: Axel's dad has set up all sorts of treasures along the way; I'm just winging it with clues I write in Evernote so I can keep track of everything I've said for the simple reason that I'm still not sure where we're going.

    "Maybe the Game Master will have us looking for stuff in Poland!" the Boy had said in anticipation of this summer's trip.

    "Maybe!" I replied, wondering if I could string him along for that long. The answer came today: not with clues alone, silly amateur, not with clues alone.

    Still, it was great fun, not only because the Boy had fun (at first) but because the Girl enjoyed being in on the secret.

    Pig Reef

    The day began as yesterday began: outside.

    The Boy has for some months been obsessed with The Axel Show, and lately, they've been going on an extended treasure hunt, set up by the Game Master and continually disrupted by imposter Game Masters who steal clues and create chaos. E desperately wants to have his own treasure hunt adventure, so we set off today to have one. No one's hidden any treasure anywhere, but as with many things in life, it's the process -- the journey, the adventure -- that matters.

    When we got back home, we did some cleaning, ran some errands, then played Scrabble with the Girl. We've played Scrabble Jr. together before, but as we were cleaning, L discovered real Scrabble and knew we had to play today.

    The Boy began and with some help from L, played "pit." A simple start that didn't offer a lot of options for continued play, but I had u, r, t, and s, so I played "trust," which eventually led to "tug," "rug," "roar" and "diver," but the Boy's next play was to add "ig" to his first word and create "pig." A few plays later, he took four letters from his holder and suggested adding them to "pig." The letters: f, r and two e's.

    "You know, like a 'pig reef,'" he explained.

    The Girl and I decided it was the best play of the whole game.

    A quick search on the internet revealed, much to our surprise, that there really is such a thing as a pigreef.