Our daughter now leaves the bathroom trailing a Monet scent of blossoms and linens, the mingling of surf and grass — the thousand and one scents of a young teenage girl. She started out smelling of “pinkness and warmth and contentedness,” a warm mix of comfortable and soft scents that came from her effortlessly, naturally. It was who she was; it was how old she was, or rather how young.

Now, too, her scents bloom from her age, though now from deliberate choice and purposeful will. They come from body washes and facial scrubs, hand creams and lip balms, shampoos and exfoliants. They are from her will and a representation of her will — a desire to be pleasant, to be sweet, to be pretty.

To what end? As far as I can tell, she’s not seeking the eye of anyone, not interested in any such things, and though the time is right for such interest to begin budding, we’ve not heard a word.

But realistically speaking, would we? Didn’t I try desperately to hide from my parents the fact that I no longer found girls foreign and frightful? Didn’t I try desperately to hide from my parents the fact that this girl or that had caught my eye? Didn’t I try desperately to save myself from that embarrassment, because how could they possibly understand?