Month: May 2012

Waking

The Boy can be amusing as he wakes.

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Backyard Safari

The professor was terribly kind to give me a job as her assistant on her great exploratory backyard safari.

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We had an important mission, a mission of discovery in lands of danger.

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First up, the incredibly rare Knockout Rose. The professor discovered that it was possible to determine where old blossoms had been.

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It was an important scientific development, but not nearly as important as the realization that “roses provide bees.” So important was this new scientific understanding that the professor decided to make a short note of it in her special notebook.

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Yet nature is full of surprises, like sleeping lightening bugs,

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and mushrooms growing under a stand of Leyland Cypresses.

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My job was simple: do whatever the professor required. I held the sample case and made a record of each location the professor took a sample.

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What was best was all the free lectures I received. The professor is a generous teacher, and she explained many mysteries as we wandered about our backyard and the neighbor’s.

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Throughout the day, the professor also conducted experiments. Finding a seed pod from a sweet gum tree, she made a most scientific declaration. “My hypothesis is that it won’t float,” she declared, marching over to the small stream that forms our lower property line.

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She tossed it in, watched it bob about, then summarized the experiment with true scientific objectivity: “My hypothesis was wrong.”

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“That provides water from the toilet.”

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But some of the time, the professor simply observed.

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“What about pay?” I asked, knowing I’d already been paid many times over by just being present with her.

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“Well, we can pick some berries,” she replied.

 

Sucker

This year I’m leaving them alone. We’ll see what happens.

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Double Duty

There’s high maintenance and low maintenance. The Girl has always been the former. From birth, with her digestion problems and sleeping difficulties, she drew a constant flow of energy from anyone caring for her. Being an only child for so long only prolonged this.

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Enter: the Boy. Decidedly low maintenance.

Recital 2012

The Girl feels she’s been playing second fiddle for the last two weeks. She never says it, but it’s clear. Add to it the frustration she must feel to hear “No, not now” to her constant requests to hold the Boy and it’s fairly clear that we needed a night like tonight.

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Recital night — the evening L has been talking about constantly for a week or more now. “Wednesday is my rehearsal,” she began saying last week, “and Thursday is my recital.” She told friends; she told teachers; she told strangers in the checkout line.

“We’ve got to make her feel truly special,” K said, and so we bought two bouquets and a box of her favorite chocolates — just what every ballerina needs.

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And she got the added bonus of staying up well past her bedtime, a fact which impressed and pleased her enough that she repeated it several times on the way back to the car. Of course the evening photo session made everything a touch later, too.

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Spring Babies

The Girl was born in December: to go outside was a major project requiring actual planning and considerable logistics in the form of layers of protection. The Boy, on the other hand, is a spring baby.

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This means that he and the berries are ripening together.

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Holding

It’s probably a good thing that newborns need to be held constantly, because if they hoped to do anything else, those dreams would soon shatter.

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Who can resist the fresh scent and bobbing head of a newborn? Who can see a gurgling newborn and not hold his arms out? They are out there, but I’ve never understood them.

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We are reminded of what true innocence is, of what it means to be totally trusted, of what softness and sweetness really are.

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Note: The photo of me under the deck with the Boy is the work of the Girl. It appears this is a post in which she’s absent, but she’s moving to the other side of the shutter.

Relationships

The Girl has been the center of a small cluster of orbiting adults for her entire life. Mama, Tata, Nana, Papa, Babcia, Dziadek — all circle around her in their own cycles and epicycles, drifting into apogee, out of perigee, but always circling.

It’s been all about her dance rehearsal, her play dates, her mini photography sessions, her wants and needs.

As she has spun, so we have rotated around her.

But now there’s competition. “The boy” has become a newly frequent tag for posts here, and the Girl is likely beginning to wonder just how many pictures of a baby sleeping we can possibly take. And she’s beginning to wonder just how much one little caterpillar can cry.

It’s a learning experience in countless ways. The Girl is learning she’s no longer the center; we’re learning now to make her realize that it’s now simply an elliptical orbit, with two foci.

A wise web visitor — as well as others — once pointed out that we’ll need to work on the sibling relationship as well. It’s a little trickier, because making the Girl realize she’s not suddenly an outsider is something within my control: I can take positive steps to affect that, like spending the afternoon with her riding bikes as we did today. The sibling relationship seems at first blush more like a “lead a horse to water” situation

Yet there is an initiative from the Girl herself. Irritation about crying has been transformed into self-appointed pacifier duty: “When he spits it out, I’ll get it!” she proclaims.

And of course she’s just dying to hold him.

Sleep

It’s not that we don’t remember the sleepless nights and days that blur one into another, the perpetual exhaustion to the point of aches and pains, the little prayers one mutters when the baby begins stirring, the half-awake-half-asleep state of being that can linger for hours, the thought that just an hour of solid sleep would be worth a four-figure sum. We don’t forget it. We just forget what it feels like.

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The correlative of this is the desperation one feels to make sure that the child sleeps any chance and place possible.

Note: at least one photo staged…

The New Chair

Sometimes it’s best for the Boy to sit up a bit as he sleeps — much like the Girl was.

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Pacifier

Vacuum

Hardly a substitute.

Birth, Material, and Mystery

The birth of our son today leads to thoughts of matters of significance: of the miracles and improbabilities of love and life; of the cosmic scope of unbounded affection and the microscopic details it discovers; of the sweetness of sacrifice for sweetness; of the paradox of pain in beauty and beauty in pain; of phlegm and blood and the sacred oils of life; of the indescribable perfume of a newborn and the musicality of his cry; of the promise of motets, poems, and equations that threads through a life from the moment of conception; of the paradox that one plus one equals one, two, four, or more; of the perfect symmetry of our asymmetrical familial lives; of a softness too delicate to believe and too tough to be broken; of the illogical logic of a mother’s love; of trust and patience and a million other things that shouldn’t exist in a purely material world; of souls and blessings and angels; and of a father’s circular reasoning.

There are biological and anthropological explanations for all this. Studies of nature show we are unnaturally natural and naturally unnatural, that we have the same codes at the heart of our being as chimps and many of the same behaviors circling out from that almost-identical genetic blueprint. Physics and astronomy combine with chemistry to form a foundation for a biological explanation for why I would fight to the death for my son, daughter, and wife, but even the most elaborate string theory or quantum physics can make sense of it, can discover why I should, can illuminate the goodness of altruism.

And so I am left in a chilly room with an exhausted wife and a swaddled son, an energetic daughter bouncing from idea to idea with grandparents who can only try to keep up, and the realization that at the heart of it, the mystery of this all is what must be at the start and finish of any human endeavor. Mystery is the thread through our lives that strings together all our happy accidents and makes continuity out of chaos. Mystery, in the form of love, is the thread that makes embroidery out of our lives, but someone must be pulling on the needle.

Emil

Emil Eugene Scott

Ten pounds, five ounces.

Story Four

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Once upon a time there was a princess that had a castle. The castle had a queen. She was beautiful.

Story Three

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Once upon a time there was a queen and a king and a princess. She had five cats and one dog.

Story Two

Fairy Tale 2

Once there was a dog. he went to the park.

Story One

Fairy Tale 1

The cat went the forest to catch field mice.