“You can’t make me do that! You can’t make me do anything!”
I’ve heard this only a few times, from students who don’t particularly want to do something and resent the fact that I’m trying to “make” them.
“You’re right. I can’t make you do that,” I respond, and then explain what the student’s choices will influence my choices. Sometimes that motivates, sometimes it doesn’t.
Free will is a tricky thing in the middle schooler. It exists — rather, it flames — and then it disappears in a whimper — rather, in flash. Suddenly, I am making students do all sorts of things.
They shout out rude things because I made them: I unjustly accused them, you see.
They lash out at me because I made them: I asked them to do something they didn’t want to do, you see.
One has even threatened me because I made him: I told him to get up and leave his group of friends because of excessive talking.
If only I could figure out a way to make them do what I want them to do…