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Farm on the Hill

A visit to the Asheville area is not complete without a visit with Mike and Pia, our friends from the farm on the hill.

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Their farm has grown considerably since our last visit. Their chickens have grown, they have a goat, and they added two bunnies to the fold.

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For the days preceding our visit, L continually talked about going to see Mike and Pia "and the goat, and the chickens, and the dogs, and the bunny rabbits." When she finally met the goat (whose name is Little Bit or Leadbelly, depending on whether you're talking to Pia or Mike, respectively), L was a little apprehensive. It's her usual modus operendi:be terrified for a few moments, then strike that and reverse it.

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The chickens, all grown, have their own house now. The Girl was not at all interested in going inside, which is to say she would have been had we given her enough time.

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The sight of all those chickens, scurrying about, clucking and flapping was too unpredictable for L to handle, so she simply waited outside.

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Once a chicken was isolated, though, the L was eager to pet and giggle, giggle and pet.

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The sun finally set, and with L in bed, we sat around the porch, then around the kitchen, talking, laughing, imbibing this and that, until after midnight.

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One of the negatives about moving out of Asheville was leaving behind friends. Yet there is a sweet note to the bitterness: the semi-yearly visits become all the more precious. We all bounce out of the house crying, "We're going to Asheville!" It's the classic dilemma/blessing.

Zoo School

I took L to zoo school -- an instructional program for kids at our local zoo. It was short and sweet: just what a group of toddlers needs.

We began by exploring various animal artifacts, including a turtle shell that was almost as big as the Girl. This, it turned out, was only the keep-them-busy-while-the-others-arrive activity.

The topic was "Big and Small" and it was simply designed to get the kids thinking of the relative sizes of all animals. The highlight was when everyone got to touch a millipede.

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Though the Girl was initially nervous about being in a room with strangers, she showed no anxiety about touching the millipede. That's both good and bad: good for the obvious reasons, bad because a dose of caution around unknown animals is always a good thing. Let's hope she doesn't get inspired to try to pick up any crawling beasts she might find in our yard...

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At the end of the program, L showed her leadership ability by cleaning up the pile of crayons another child had created, dumping an entire tub of them on the floor. In classic Tom Sawyer fashion, she convinced everyone it was fun and soon others joined in.

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L's eagerness to help constantly takes me by surprise. The trick now: how to maintain it through childhood.

Meet Big Wolf

She's been telling us the story for months now, and we've been pretending along with her about her imaginary friend, Big Wolf. At the zoo last weekend, we had an idea.

"Big Wolf is right over there," K whispered when we were in the gift shop. Sure enough, a pile of stuffed wolves. "She hasn't seen it yet," K continued.

"You keep her distracted," I replied, "and I'll buy the wolf and sneak it into our bag."

We took her outside, had her sit down, and told her there was a surprise in the bag.

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She looked in the bag and was immediately delighted. "Big Wolf!" she cried out, eager to show everyone.

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After so many months of looking for Big Wolf, we finally found him. While most say the search, the journey, is the important aspect of any adventure, the actual meeting -- the goal -- was a moment of pure, unsurpassed joy.

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Since then, Big Wolf has been her daily companion. He accompanies her to daycare, and even joins in the morning circle, the teachers tell us. "We've all gotten used to Big Wolf joining each and every activity," Miss Brenda told me.

L constantly reminds us of the trick to life: find joy in the simplest things.

Repair Work

L's bike seat needed some adjustment. She was eager to help.

"Hand me that," I could ask, and she would, occasionally. More often, I was asking her to take this instead of that, asking her to bring this back, calling her name out several times in rapid succession when she was reaching for a nut or bolt I'd be needing shortly.

Required: a seat adjustment.

Reason: it's obvious, isn't it? She's grown significantly since the last time she pedaled around. I raised the seat about two inches.

An initial fitting showed that a raised seat wouldn't suffice. I slide the saddle back as far as it would go.

Result: a happy little girl.

Yet another image that hints at a five-year-old L.

Summer Plans Begin

In Polska, K and I were both avid cyclers. Here, we haven't been so much. Having a beast of 2.5 years makes that difficult.

The solution has always lingered in the back of our mind, brought forward afresh each time we were at a park with bike trails: buy a trailer for the Girl.

Add to this equation the decision we've made to have a relaxing, travel-resistant vacation on Edisto Island and one has all the impetus necessary to buy a trailer.

First, we had to sell her on the whole idea. That was not too difficult: we'd been pointing out such trailers every time we go to a park, asking, "L, would you like to ride in something like that?" The answer was always, "Yes." (Or, until recently, "Tak.")

She played and played, went in and out and in again -- "You close it, please?" "Open it, please." "You close it, please?" Finally, we attached the wheels and pulled her around downstairs.

Monday, at last, we took her on the road.

Verdict: fun, but only when Mama's around.

Digging in the Dirt

An afternoon with friends led L and Franio to discover (or for L, to rediscover) the joys of mucking about with gardening tools. Our host stayed in the backyard with the kids for a bit, teaching them how safely to use semi-dangerous equipment. Naturally, I felt they might as well be playing with chainsaws and strychnine.

It became an object lesson for the Girl: bigger kids can do things younger children simply can't. Or at least shouldn't. Not when Tata is around, anyway. L was delicately working.

Franio was putting his back into it.

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"I do it like Franio, Tata!" L squealed several times. "No, you do it gently," Tata replied.

It was another of many "you can't protect them forever but 'forever' is not now" moments.

More significant than the digging or other fun was the sharing. Spontaneous, unsolicited sharing. "You try now," was a common refrain.

The adults did the parental love and horror stories routine with the new parents. With us, all that advice and thos endless anecdotes do little except provide reassurance. Yet we tell the stories anyway.

Anti-Squirrel Device

It was squirrels digging up our garden, and being the eco-friendly folks we are, we went with a non-lethal but hopefully highly annoying and perhaps frightening deterrent: a motion-activated sprinkler.

It turned out to be great fun for the Girl as well.

The Girl’s Mother’s Day Video

I had the idea; L created the screenplay — more or less on the fly.

Drawing with Mama

Snack

Often, when L and I arrive home, we take a snack together. An eternal favorite is apple slices with a light spread of peanut butter and a shared glass of milk.

I don't know how we began sitting on the floor, but we do now consistently -- even when it's a Saturday afternoon snack.

I hold the apple; L spreads the peanut butter. The cooperation is a blessing: she often insists on doing everything herself, and that can lead to frustration.

She also cleans up messes. Occasionally, the mess is bigger after she completes the task, but in the case of peanut butter on a finger, she does a thorough job.