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First Day of Preparation

There are sounds and smells that are only associated with the Christmas season. A mixer running through the morning and then again through the evening is one of those sounds. First, in the morning, we run the mushrooms and cabbage through the grinder attachment to create two different pastes that will fill uszka and pierogi.

“I love uszka!” exclaims the Boy time and time again. Every time we have barszcz through the year, E asks if it’s going to be barszcz z uszkami.

“No, honey, that’s just Christmas Eve,” K responds patiently.

“Why?”

“Too much work.”

Once a year, though, it’s not too much work. It’s just enough work. After a couple of weekends of cleaning and several dishes to prepare over the coming days, a day making pierogi and uszka seems relatively insignificant.

But it is a lot of work. First, we saute the onions and the mushrooms while the sauerkraut bubbles away. It all gets strained and then _____ed. Then comes the tedious work: dumpling after dumpling, filled, folded, and pinched closed. More dough cut from the ever-dwindling ball, rolled flat, cut into circles, then again -- filed, folded, and pinched. Filled, folded, pinched.

I head over and get a pinch of the mushroom/kraut miracle.

“G, you’re in my way,” K scolds.

The cleaning piles up during all that. A mountain of dishes that then gets leveled and remounded again and again.

Cycles within cycles. That’s what makes life comforting, its predictability at times. We spend so much of our time worrying about what’s coming that we long for those moments when what’s coming is what’s always come before.

The Tree

Mikołaj 2020

This morning, Elfie made his first appearance:

I was a little curious about E's reaction this year: at the end of last year, he figured it out. "You guys just put Elfie out there, don't you?"

"What makes you think that?"

And then he discovered where I'd hidden him the week after he disappeared last Christmas season.

"See! You did it!"

But this year, his class is doing Elf on the Shelf, so he either pretended to forget about it because of that, or he actually did forget about his conjectures last year.

Tonight, Elfie decided to do a little web browsing while he had the opportunity.

Previous Years

The Tree

Critical Santa

During dinner tonight, the topic of Santa came up. "I don't believe in Santa Claus," the Boy said confidently, "but I believe in Saint Nicholas." I thought he might be thinking of the Polish version of Santa, Mikolaj, who comes on December sixth, or perhaps just he was just thinking of the actual Saint Nicholas of the Catholic church -- you know, the bishop from Turkey.

"I knew this time was coming," I thought. I've always felt a ting of guilt about the whole Santa thing: I knew perfectly well that Santa doesn't exist, but I kept playing along, telling our kids that Santa does exist. Eventually they figure it out, but it just left a bad taste in my mouth.

Soon, though, he kind of back-tracked: "Well, I'm not sure."

"What evidence do you have that Santa exists?" I asked him.

"What kind of evidence do you have that Santa doesn't exist," L jumped in like a typical thirteen-year-old who just wants to be contrary. (Is it only thirteen-year-olds that are like that?)

"No, sweetheart. Whenever people are making a claim, the burden of proof is on them. They have to provide evidence, not the skeptics who doubt the story," I clarified. I thought about going into what it means to beg the question, but I didn't, turning instead back to the Boy: "So what evidence do we have?"

He listed the toys, the imagery in movies, the stories.

"Can we explain those things with other methods? Is there a simpler way to explain the toys appearing under the Christmas tree?" Did I tell him we were applying Occam's Razor? Certainly not. But we were shaving away.

"Well, you and Mom could put the toys under the tree," he responded after some thought.

In the end, though, when pressed, he decided that he leaned toward a belief in Santa.

We'll see how he views it next year.

Advent 2020 Begins

Today is the first day for the Advent calendars K has kept under wraps in the basement. L made sure to label hers to ensure the integrity of her 24-treat treasure, only to find that the first treat had an almond in the center of it.

"I can't eat almonds," she sighed.

Don't worry -- someone took care of it.

Already

Went to Lowe’s this morning for a new wax ring for a toilet. Walked in and saw this. This is two and a half months before Christmas. We have not only Thanksgiving to go but Halloween as well…

Carols

I haven't been to many purely American Christmas parties where friends and family gather, but I don't recall people continually singing carols during the evening.

That's a Polish thing. Perhaps other cultures do it as well, but it's a Polish thing for sure. Especially among expats.

I sit and smile during such sessions: I don't know the words in their entirety (snatches here and there, perhaps a chorus), but I know the melody and am content just observing.

Showing Papa his newest creation

Christmas 2019

A few shots from our Christmas walk with friends.

Few pictures from the party with the same friends because we were to busy having a Christmas party: eating, drinking, singing, talking, laughing, repeating.

Wigilia 2019

Christmas in contemporary culture is all about the gifts. "What did you get for Christmas?" "Look what I got for Christmas!" "Did you hear what Sally bought Harry for Christmas?" It seems easy to get caught up in the commercialism of the day when it surrounds you as it does in our culture.

Yet throughout the evening, I kept thinking of the gifts of a different sort that we were getting on a weekly, daily, or even hourly basis if only we look around. There's much to be thankful for even in the simplest events of a day.

There are the obvious things: we have a lot of food in the house now, more than seems decent. And we have a woman in our lives who spent an inordinate amount of time preparing it for us. Sure we all helped a little, but keeping things in perspective, it was a very little indeed.

We have a warm and cozy home -- a place to prepare that food and eat it later, and a place to sleep when the day is done. We have warm clothes. All these things are necessary, but we could do with a lot less of all these things.

Where we really find cause for gratitude is in the family itself. That's where the real gifts are.

"[E]ven in such moments tinged with temporary loss, there was a bit of brightness — we’ll appreciate it all the more next near when Nana is back with us." Thus I ended last year's thoughts on Wigilia, and here it is, a year later, and Nana is not back with us. It's hard not to get depressed about things like that. Yet Papa expresses his gratitude for the simple fact that Nana suffers no more, and that he was the one that was left behind. "That was her single greatest fear," he's explained to friends and family.

Having Papa around all the time, though the cause of it all is in many ways tragic (but not all ways: see above), is a gift to the kids, especially the Boy. E spends a great deal of time in Papa's room, watching drawing videos on the computer, eating a snack, sketching something out, playing with cars, just hanging out. "It's my favorite room in the house," the Boy has insisted multiple times.

And then there's Ciocia M and her daughters: they are more like family than just about anyone we know in the States. T, C, L, and E are not family only by a technicality of blood, and I sometimes feel that Ciocia M and K must have been sisters in a previous life if such lives exist.

But why think about previous lives when we're so fortunate to have the present life we have?

Carols During Mass

Previous Years

Wigilia 2003

Wigilia 2004

Wigilia 2005

Wigilia 2006

Wigilia 2007

Wigilia 2008

Wigilia 2008

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Wigilia 2011

Wigilia 2012

Wigilia 2013

Wigilia 2014

Wigilia 2015

Wigilia 2016

Wigilia 2017

Wigilia 2018