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Tempers, Tacos, Chess, and a Church

A day of contrasts. At school, the kids in eighth-grade English as working on performances of small excerpts from The Diary of Anne Frank, the play based on Anne's diary. Most of the groups are doing great: they work well together; they take criticism from each other well since they know part of their grade comes from how well they're performing as a group; they seem to enjoy the challenge. Most of them. One group, not so much. The group just isn't getting along. One girl -- we'll call her Alicia -- has a temper that could be measured in nanometers, and she has to express her thought when she finds herself annoyed, which is frequently. Another girl -- we'll call her Susan -- just doesn't care, and she doesn't care that other people might care, and she doesn't care that her apathy affects them. And she has a temper as well. One boy in the group likes to provoke anyone and everyone he can. And finally, a third girl has made a big turn-around this year in my class and has gone from being nasty to being a fairly well behaved, decent working young lady, but one who doesn't like it when things don't go her way. So while all other groups were developing their ideas, rehearsing their lines, planning who would bring what props, this group broke into fits of frustration and argument literally every three or four minutes.

How can you teach kids any subject when first they need to be taught how to control their temper, how to control their tongue, how to control their sense of self-injury?

At home, the Boy and I initiated what we're going to try to make into a daily activity: a bit of chess together. He knows how to move the pawns fairly well now. He knows the basics of the rooks. Next, we'll introduce bishops, the king, the queen, and finish up with the tricky knights.

He's learning to pile up attackers and count defenders to determine if he can take a piece or not; he's starting to think offensively and defensively at the same time; he's eager to learn more -- all good signs. His mind is growing. His body, too -- faster, in fact.

Tonight was taco knight (see what I did there?), and the Boy loves Mexican food. We have a little Mexican restaurant down the street where the two of us have eaten dinner when the girls are out on their own, and he's always eager for more.

Tonight, he skipped the beans and the rice and ate not one, not two, but three tacos. Half the fun for him is actually making the taco.

The calm and the joy of chess followed by tacos seemed so jarring juxtaposed with the chaos my one group of students was experiencing. Those who were causing the issues -- what kind of jarring, chaotic home life might they have? It doesn't seem that people who would go home to some time with their family and a bit of comfort food would have that much difficulty keeping themselves in check because it would have been modeled for them and perhaps taught explicitly.

In the evening, when the girls have gone to gymnastics and shopping, the Boy and I decided to play with Legos, and we decided we needed to make something we'd never made before. We decided on a church.

As I was building the roof, the Boy declared that he would start working on things for the inside. After a few minutes, he showed me something he'd made.

"It's that table, where they do everything," he explained.

"The altar?"

"Yeah."

And he made it complete with chalices and a paten.

Sunday Without L

Puppies are like newborns: you never really know how much they're going to change your life -- turn everything positively upside down -- until you actually have one of your own. They will both affect your life in ways that you never imagined. Our puppy, for example, has transformed our backyard. It was once a place for us to hang out with the kids, to play, to swing, to bounce, to laugh. We two hammocks and a cloth swing in addition to our wooden swing and trampoline. Then we got a fence and let the dog spend time in our backyard without us. She destroyed the hammocks; she destroyed the swing; she dug up large swaths of the backyard; she would have destroyed trampoline if she could, I'm sure.

Today, we started replacing some things, with a different plan for keeping the dog at bay. In short, we're taking everything down every time we finish playing down there. It seems a bit extreme, but there's no other way to keep the dog from destroying it, short of getting rid of the dog. Which has crossed my mind. More than once. Or even twice.

The irony: the person who most loves the swing and the hammocks wasn't here. The Girl spent most of the day with a friend from the church choir, which meant we were a family of three for most of the day. And that meant the the Boy didn't have to "call" (as in, "I call the swing!" as they go running down to the back corner of the yard) anything. But he did anyway. Just for practice.

Birthday Party

It started with that warm sunlight that is a sure harbinger of warmer weather. The young leaves diffuse the light, making everything glow. It's something I've tried to capture several times but have never really managed.

Perhaps I just haven't tried hard enough -- maybe I do that purposely to leave the mystery in place.

Soccer today was camera-less. I've taken probably a thousand pictures this season -- what could happen today that hasn't already happened this year? I cheered like a normal parent, sitting at the sidelines, not so worried about getting the shot as simply living in the moment. It made me think that I should leave it at home more often.

Today's game was a loss -- number two for the year. It wasn't a horrible score: 3-1. Last week we were on the other end of a complete overwhelming of the other team. It was something like eight or nine to zero. For the entire second half, I was hoping the other team would score something. So perhaps it was a sort of mild karma today. Over-winning is not a good thing, and I was actually pleased to see them lose.

While E was learning how to lose, K was cooking and baking, preparing for Papa's birthday party. On the way to Nana's and Papa's, K related an amusing story about E. He's been struggling with tying his shoes. When it came time for new shoes, he'd insisted on Under Armor shoes because Nikes are no longer fashionable. However, this meant laces. He's been trying to master the art of tying his shoes, but it's been slow going. The other day in car line, though, a little girl asked him to tie her shoes, and since then, he's been tying his own.

At Nana's and Papa's, we knew the aunties were waiting -- a surprise for Papa.

Back home after the celebration, we planted more, weeded more, pruned more -- squeezed a bit of a typical spring Saturday.

Spring Thursday

I know it's a coast-to-coast question, but still, it bears asking: when is spring going to get here and stay here? Sure, we don't have snow like Babcia has in Poland and folks here have up north. But still -- we haven't taken out our summer clothes because every time K thinks it's time, we get a drop in temperature.

So the kids wear shorts every day that it's feasible. The other day, it was 36 when we got up; the next day, it was 52. Tomorrow, back down to the low 40s.

All the flowers and berries are blooming, but if they had any kind of sentience, I would wonder if they really could make any more sense of it than we do.

Battle of the Books

Rainy Sunday

Soccer and the Yard

Basket Blessing 2018

I never put up the pictures from this year's blessing of the baskets on Holy Saturday.

Mulch Play

Photo from the Past