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Month: June 2022

Arrival 2022

The trip here seems endless โ€” completely

Coming to Poland is always worse than returning as far as the travel itself goes. Returning to America, due to the time change, only feels like a really long day. The sun just never seems to set. Going, however, is deceptive because you have that night in the middle, but in reality, itโ€™s not much more than a short nap at best. So you feel cheated, tricked โ€” and your body does not appreciate it. It was not expecting one long day with the illusion of sleep in the middle.

Having a six-hour layover after an eight-hour flight doesnโ€™t help much either. It seems like that will be long enough to catch up on sleep just a bit, but just like the night itself, it only teases.

So we board the plane from Munich to Krakow some twenty hours after we began the whole adventure with eyes barely open. K and L try to nap on the flight, but itโ€™s of little use. E and I, each having a window seat, spend the flight looking out the windows at the shapes below.

Anyone flying into Poland with a window seat as we have knows exactly when weโ€™re over the border. The shapes change immediately and drastically. The irregular, large shapes of fields and forest interspersed with houses and towns disappear, and in their place stretch long, narrow fields, one beside another. This is Poland from the air.

Departure 2022

We're in the air at the moment; I write this still sitting at my desk in South Carolina, the whole adventure still ahead of us all. The waiting, the sitting, the endless masks -- they're all ahead of us.

All our indoor plants are behind us -- on the kitchen counter.

A small portion of the eventual garden

But best of all, Babcia awaits

Packing

Tonight is our last night in the States for a little while. Four suitcases and four carry-ons are ready to go. The Boy is going around the house constantly saying, "We're leaving for Poland tomorrow!" K is going around the house saying, "I can't believe we're leaving for Poland tomorrow." I'm going around the house saying, "Does anyone know where the bladder for our backpack is?" And L -- she's been at work, so she hasn't been saying anything this evening.

Driver

The Girl got her restricted license today. This means that, once we have her covered on our insurance, she can drive alone during daylight hours.

It's not that big of a change, I guess. She's been driving for six months now. Ah, but it is a big change: she'll soon be doing it alone.

The Boy learned about the joys of putting together furniture.

The Girl

When I got my current job teaching eighth graders, Nana said to me, "I don't know how I survived your eighth-grade year. I wanted to strangle you every other day." I can't say that I've been as upset and frustrated with teaching eighth graders as Nana might have suggested. Indeed, I've come to love it, and I don't really have any desire to teach any other grade.

My own child, though, was a different story. I began to understand Nana's hyperbole. I haven't written much about the Girl here because it's been a typical period of growth, which means frustration for parents. What are we doing wrong? Why is she pushing us away? What can we do differently? We knew the answers to those questions (Nothing; Because she's thirteen/fourteen; Nothing -- just be there unconditionally), but that didn't make it any easier.

Playing in a box -- the Boy's favorite hobby?

In the last few weeks (or even months), though, since she's started driving, since she went back to work, since she's made it through her first year of high school, it's like she's taken a deep breath and made peace with us and herself.

I knew it was coming: the transformation eighth graders go through is amazing, and I know it continues through ninth grade (until they're sophomores and temporarily revert because they're sophomores and know everything -- or is that just a cliche?), but to experience it has been refreshing. To begin seeing what kind of an adult she will be: a valiant defender of anyone facing injustice, a friend who sometimes lets her love for her friend overshadow reason (not always a good thing, not always a bad thing), self-reflective and self-aware -- to see this change really start to kick in just makes me smile.


Tonight, we finished watching Schindler's List. The reason (other than it's a moving film that everyone should see) is that L and I are planning on visiting Auschwitz while we're in Poland, and I wanted her to have an idea of what the scale of the Holocaust in real, human terms. Tomorrow, we will watch Conspiracy, a film about the Wannsee conference so she can get an idea of the "logic" that drove the Nazis.

That I am comfortable letting her watch such a film is a testament to her maturity.

A return to badminton -- a family favorite

Family

Aunt D is a national treasure. She is at least a treasure to everyone who knows her. Selfless and kind, she's helped the family more than anyone I know. When her own mother-in-law was ill, she took care of her for several years. When Nana was ill, she came and spent alternate weeks taking care of Nana.

For years she hosted the family Thanksgiving gathering, cooking for the whole family. Of course, everyone brought something, but she cooked enough herself to feed everyone.

She's generous almost to a fault.

She's always buying things for people: she sees something that she thinks someone would like, she buys it and gives it to them.

Now she's taking care of her own husband, Uncle M. He's facing his own health challenges, and he's stubborn: that would be more than a challenge for most, but Aunt D is sly and caring.

Photo by the Boy

That's a combination to be reckoned with.

Photo by the Boy

She always refers to the Girl and the Boy as "my babies."

"How are my babies doing?" she'll ask when we talk on the phone.

"Where are my babies?" she asks when she arrives at our house for a visit.

Photo by the Boy

She's the kind of aunt everyone should be fortunate enough to have.

Mention

Monopoly

Some of E's friends came over for the day. They ended up playing Monopoly -- at last, someone to feed the Boy's addiction. I always feel a little guilty not being willing to play that game with him, but I swear we're all so sick of it that we'll be happy if we never play it again. All except for the Boy.

Orlando Traffic

Going to the convention center where all games took place, we traveled on Interstate 4. No matter the time of day, it looked like this:

Orlando Return

Driving back from Orlando today, I got to thinking again about the writing project I've been considering, and I came up with yet another organizational idea for it. Indeed, not just another organizational idea, but a somewhat altered focus. So two initial drafts get shoved aside for a third. Fortunately, I was only a few thousand words into the other two drafts, so there's no real loss there. I'm excited about the new approach and began jotting notes on my phone as I took the dog for a walk.

But the whole way, I think the Girl relived the highlights of competing in nationals.