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Third Bed

Wednesday 31 August 2016

The Boy got a third bed last night, though he hasn’t used it yet. His first bed is of course the only one he really needs: the one in his room. It’s big and spacious, and while it doesn’t have a particularly boy-ish bed spread, it’s still acceptable for a little fellow like him. He hasn’t complained about it, anyway.

His second bed is our bed, between the two of us. He wakes up in the middle of the night for the last several weeks and, scared to be alone, comes to our bed. We’ve tried to figure out how to deal with it but nothing’s worked. Last night, K discovered an idea: make a bed on the floor for him and tell him that if he’s going to sleep in our room, he’s going to sleep on the floor.

Last night, he woke up at about two and came trundling to our bed. I took him back to his bed, and, remembering K’s discovery, I went downstairs to get a couple of sleeping pads and threw them on the floor with a blanket.

“If you come back to our room, you’ll have to sleep on the floor,” I told him. Quickly enough, though, he fell back asleep and that was that.

Tonight, I mentioned the bed to him again.

“I know,” he said matter-of-factly. “I saw it. It looks really good. I think it will be very comfortable. So if I come to your room tonight, I’ll just go to that bed.”

Not what I was aiming for.

Barszcz Bowl

Tuesday 30 August 2016

Saying Goodbye

Monday 29 August 2016

We’ve had that table for ten years. Before that, my parents had it for at least twenty. My uncle made it; I refinished it. Yesterday, we said goodbye.

It’s staying in the family, though — don’t worry. No chance of it leaving the family.

Sunday

Sunday 28 August 2016

Soccer

Saturday 27 August 2016

We chatted about practice during breakfast. He was excited about the prospect of doing what we did yesterday with a lot of kids. All the running and kicking yesterday resulted in a lot of laughing, and that undoubtedly fueled his enthusiasm for today. I was a little worried that, as he’s done other times, the Boy might start having second thoughts as the moment approached, but there was none of that. We put his shoes on sans shin guards, which were too small we decided, and headed to the field.

We met the coach, and E began following the other children’s example and kicking goals. His first shots were comparatively strong, hard shots. The coach’s daughter, who was a couple of years older than the players, was standing in as goalie and E’s shot flew right by her into the back of the net. I remembered how relatively tentatively L would shoot goals at the beginning and thought this might be a good sign.

Practice shifted and the coach explained to the little ones what dribbling is and set them off toward the mid-field. Some children set off at a light jog, kicking the ball a few feet in front of them and running to catch up. Others kicked it with all their might and ran to the ball. E and a few others delicately pushed the ball with each foot as he stepped forward, a slow and deliberate journey to the mid-field. Yesterday, it was the opposite: wild abandon, kicking the ball and running as fast as he could. Such a change today. “He’s not doing it like we practiced yesterday,” I thought, wondering why he was being so very careful. It might have been tempting to compare his journey to other children’s, but to what end? He is who he is, and he was doing the exercise the way he felt comfortable doing it. I was thankful for that.

The Girl spent the first half of practice reading. She finished her book and began again with a shrug. She’s got some books that she’s read so many times that she must have them virtually memorized. The second half of practice she headed to a playground down at the edge of the fields and made a few new friends with other older sisters. What did they talk about? I so rarely see E with other girls — our neighborhood is simply filled with boys — that I can’t imagine. That shift must slowly be starting, mustn’t it? Surely they’re not talking about which Barbies they have (L hasn’t had any in years) and similar topics. Fingernail polish? School?

While I wasn’t able to watch and listen to the Girl’s interactions with her new friends, I was able watch the Boy interact with adults without my mediation. He listened well, remember later in practice the earlier instruction to stand with one foot on the ball when the coach is teaching a new skill. He did the best he could, but as a four-year-old will always do, he regularly checked to see where I was, making sure I was still on the sideline. The Girl became so absorbed in her activities that we could have easily left her behind — she never would have noticed until the other girls left.

That independence is growing and will only increase, I know. Are we ready for it? Ready or not, it’s coming.

Soccer Practice

Friday 26 August 2016

First soccer practice tomorrow.

Nap and Snack

Wednesday 24 August 2016

Meeting Family Twenty Years Ago

Tuesday 23 August 2016

It was twenty years ago today that I arrived in Lipnica Wielka, my home in southern Poland for seven years. Upon arriving, I wrote in my journal:

It has taken so much time to reach this point. I am a Peace Corps Volunteer, sitting in my apartment at my site, Lipnica Wielka. In a way I want to cry – not from happiness or sadness. It’s just from relief. I finally made it.

At the time, I was so strung out and excited that I didn't even realize that it was also my mother's birthday. And today, thinking about the fact that it's Nana's birthday, I had no idea that it was also the twentieth anniversary of my arrival in Poland. One eclipsed the other, and then they changed roles and did it again.

The seeds of my own family start on that day as well. I didn't meet K immediately, but it was only a matter of weeks after that I met K in a small bar that served as a dance hall -- a disco as it was called -- on Saturday evenings for local youngsters (at least that's how I view the 18-25 bracket now). Twenty years later, we've started a new branch of our family trees.

1-DSCF0205 — The Girl picking pictures for a class project

The final connection for today: out of the blue, I decided to tinker the other day with the family tree I'd started creating on Ancestry.com. The site offered me a two-week trial subscription, which would allow me to delve into the records of the site rather than just use the site as a record-keeping mechanism. A few hours of research later and I have several generations of the family in America, back to the late eighteenth-century. Or do I? There's really no way of knowing whether or not the Robert Divenny (1773-1852) is my paternal grandfather's mother's grandfather or just some Divenny that seems to match enough of the criteria -- birth period and general location. And of course I don't know anything about the family tree going forward. Still, somehow have a potential name makes it all the more real.

Afternoon at the Lake

Saturday 20 August 2016

I wouldn't know about them but for the Olympics, which have put in us in front of the television more than usual lately, but State Farm has been apparently hiring known musicians to embed their "Like a good neighbor" in one of their stylized creations. Clever, I guess, but it's a meaningless ad if you don't have good neighbors. We have great neighbors, and we spent the afternoon at the lake with them today.

E has been eyeing our neighbor's boat for years, and Mr. F has been promising to take him out on the boat for ages. Today was the day. Mrs. P, who works at E's preschool, told us that he's been talking about today's outing for the whole week. "Everyone knows he's going out on the boat with Mr. F," she laughed.

When we arrived, everyone went straight into the water while Mr. F went to put the boat in the water. The plan was simple: swim, lunch, boat ride.

The first part of it went fine. They even managed to slip a short boat ride in just before lunch.

But then the rain began and intensified and it was fairly clear fairly quickly that we weren't going on another boat ride. The thunder began and it became clear that we weren't even going back into the water.